Thursday, April 27, 2017

Alex's Dinner And Movie - Gifted



Song:  Morning Has Broken

Artist:  Cat Stevens 


On this night...
we went to have a quick all you can eat sushi dinner...
and we then went to the late showing of the movie 'Gifted'.

And...
although the movie is well worth watching...
and it is a touching story of a gifted child in a custody battle...
it didn't touch on too much of the elements of the gifted child.

This is what Alex wanted to see...
as well as his mother.

I really wasn't all that interested as
I have lived through Alex's life...
well...all of his life  :)

So for me...
it turned out to be a pleasant surprise.

I thought it would be more of a documentary...
but it turned out to be a very nice story.

(all of the photos were taken by my wife with her iPhone).


We ate at this Japanese restaurant.

We had all you can eat sushi...
and then just walked around the corner to the movie theater.


 Although this movie theater is much smaller than the IMAX theater where my mother and I 
had recently seen the movie 'Born In China'...
it still had some comfortable reclining seats.



 When we arrived...
we were the only ones there.

However, shortly thereafter...
another four people showed up.

It was a 9:50 PM showing.


The screen was much smaller than the IMAX screen...
but it was adequate.

Whenever I go to the movies...
I always try to see them at the IMAX theaters.

This particular movie wasn't playing there...so...


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It was good for Alex to get out for a night of relaxation.

He has been studying a lot lately.

He still has many major exams coming up soon.

He is also going to the ARML Nationals as part of the NNV Math Club Competition team
in Las Vegas, in a little over a month.


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This movie had touched on a controversial topic as to the value 
that socialization of a gifted child plays in his/her life.

This has always been a hot topic ever since we learned of Alex's giftedness.

What many do not realize is that a gifted child's peers should be his intellectual peers...
not necessarily his age group peers.

Plus...
it also heavily depends on if the child is introverted or extroverted.

Alex is introverted...
as are his mother, and I.

Much too much emphasis is placed on "socialization".

What is unnatural is to try to force a child who is introverted...
to act as if he were extroverted.

Many gifted children crave solitude.

They do...
however, love being around their intellectual peers...
ones whom they can discuss topics of their mutual interests.

However...
many simply wish to be around them for a few hours...
only wishing to have much alone time to recharge.


Most in society looks upon a person who loves to be alone...as strange.

I have found that a man who prefers his own company
over the company of most others...
to be a far better man.

He knows what he wants...
and he revels in the planning and execution of his life plans.

While he will readily mix in with a group of mature individuals...
it is for a relatively short period of time...
and he then wishes to further pursue his goals in life.

A person who closely observes his surroundings and ponders on them...
instead of talking of mostly inconsequential topics with others...
is a person who values life far more.

He thinks more deeply and sincerely.

He is an introvert.

It is really simple...
the more you talk...
the less you may truly listen and observe.

I value the person of far fewer words...
but of far more thought...
and of far more efficient and effective actions towards his goals.








2 comments:

  1. As an introvert myself, I understand the need for alone time to recharge. And now that I am older, I think I am more comfortable with social interactions than I was as a child, though like you say, it is still for relatively shorter periods of time (before I crave solitude again). But I do wonder with introverted children if there is a way to help them become more comfortable around people... not to force socialization necessarily, but maybe to introduce and coach in small pieces. Not saying this about Alex... more thinking back to my own youth and wondering if I could have gotten more comfortable around people at a younger age if someone had guided me more on the social aspects of life.

    Glad you enjoyed the movie. I have seen the trailers and would like to see it sometime.

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  2. Yes, you are correct, any behavior may be modified if done slowly, and in small enough pieces, and for a
    long enough time. However, it should only be done if it hinders a child's ability to interact when it is necessary, or when the child truly wishes to interact, and cannot.

    Throughout life, there are many people who are toxic to groups, and to individuals. I think the first part of socialization should be close observation of how others act, and react, to sieve out the good from the bad. The ones who are in need of behavior modification are the toxic individuals, and the superficial ones. I am always highly suspicious of social butterflies. They are, almost always, good time Charlies. They fly off at the first sign of trouble, or effort. They are there only for the nectar, and are ready to fly off to extract their needs from others, without really contributing.

    I much prefer the company of the introvert. If anything, the conversations are usually short and to the point. :)
    Of course, that is until both have accurately gauged each other's depth of heart and mind. Once that has been established, a bonding trust exists, and the conversations then become interesting.

    With the extrovert, you never know what is real, usually, until too late. Socialization should focus on respect given and received. I very much hate the "Let children be children" attitude. This is where children forever remain children because a lack of leadership due to a lack of structure. Group activities, such as sports, allows the focus, and pressure, to be off the individual to unnaturally approach others without having been signaled that the others are willing to engage. To approach another without having first been given a signal of receptiveness, is showing a lack of respect. To throw a group of children together without structure, is to only almost ensure an eventual "Law of the jungle" order to be established. While it may appear that everyone is happy, it is only on the surface. What you have is appeasement from the gentle to keep the peace, and boldness from the predators and manipulators. While adults look upon a lack of fighting as a sign of everyone getting along, it is only order through oppression. Cliques form, and alliances struck. This is why gangs eventually form...a lack of adult structure. When respect is taught to be given to all, you take away the power of predators on the group. With this as a guideline, the group then becomes cohesive, since they are not attempting to rule over others, as they then know that they are governed by rule of law, instead of rule of man.

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