Monday, July 6, 2015

Alex Tries His First Steak - And An Example Of My Pinball Mind



Song:   Losing My Religion

Group:  R.E.M.



These sunset shots were taken from our front and back yards by my wife
shortly before we took Alex out to a steak house for dinner.

There is so much to love about Reno.

The air is clear...
and the temperature is great.

I love living at high altitude
(although a mile up is not so high as I would like to live (I would rather live two miles up)).

The cloud formations often lend themselves to be painted in the skies
as part of the many beautiful sunrises and sunsets we get here.











On this night...
Alex would have his first sirloin steak.

Although he had had his first Filet Mignon at a Teppanyaki restaurant last year
(he loved it)...
 he didn't know it was beef...as he had never had any before.
He has always been reluctant to try new foods.

I know that eating red meats often is not so good for ones health...
and Alex has been almost religiously eating a healthful diet all his life...
and that this might be seen as almost sacrilegious to all of those whom do not eat red meats.

However, Alex must expand the acceptable types of foods he will eat...
not only because red meats contain the highest amounts of certain vitamins
and other compounds not so readily available in other meats...
but because there is a whole variety of very delicious foods to explore...
at least on occasion.

He does eat Pork (he loves BBQ pork baby back ribs)...
but he has always turned his nose up at beef.



My wife researched the customer reviews for steak houses...
and she found this one in Reno.

Although we love the 'Outback' restaurant chain...
we had wanted to try some place new for Alex to try his first steak.



A bucket of peanuts from which they encouraged their customers to peel, eat...
and to then discard the shells on the floor!

The rolls were delicious...
but they were not nearly so delicious as is Navajo Fried Bread  :)


We tried their blue lemonade
(we didn't particularly like it).


Their chili was excellent.

However, try as I may...
I couldn't get Alex to try any.


Peanut shells on the floor...
part of the road house theme.


My wife had the beef kababs.


Alex and I had the Sirloin and Beef Rib platter.



Although Alex liked the beef...
neither of us thought it was special.

Actually...
we prefer the Outback restaurant to this one.

Alex and I will stick to Filet Mignon and Prime Rib for our beef dishes.

As we don't eat beef all so often...
when we do...
we will eat only the best in the future.

I was a little disappointed in the dinner.

Texas BBQ sauce is supposed to have a tangy bold flavor.

The tang of the sauce should set the salivary glands on high squirt mode  :)

The full flavors should explode in the mouth...
and should be something memorable...even extraordinary.

This sauce was flat...
and the meat had no smokey charbroiled flavor.

This was not BBQ worthy of Texas.

Actually...
some of the best Texas BBQ we have eaten has been at Dickey's Texas BBQ...
just a couple of miles from home.

Now...
I must admit...
the decor and the service was very good.

But when you eat out...
it is the food which should stand out in the mind...
something which leaves you craving more...
even though the belly is full, and can take no more.


Their apple pie was good.


Alex liked the cheese cake...
but he made no remarks as to it being exceptional...
as is the cheese cake at the Oyster Bar on the Sky Terrace
at The Atlantis Casino.

We will have to go to another steak house or to a teppanyaki place later this week...
as I want Alex to have a better example of beef to fondly remember
(he loves Filet Mignon).

I also want him to try the outstanding tacos at UNR next semester.

So far...
he has yet to try any ground beef dishes...
and the tacos at UNR are the best example of how stupendous ground beef can be
when combined with the right ingredients and spices.

Now...
don't get me wrong.

I am not trying to get Alex to change from his very healthful diet...
nor am I implying that I don't normally eat a healthful one.

We eat fish the most often (mostly grilled wild caught salmon)...
and some poultry and pork...
although I also relish the many other meat dishes that beef affords.

Red meats in moderation can be very healthful.


Why do I talk about food so much?
(and other stimuli?)


It is one of life's great simple pleasures.


Just as a beautiful woman can leave a memorable mark in your life...
the way she moves, the sound of her voice, the smell of her perfume...
so may a beautiful sunset, or a truly memorable meal.


Am I being too dramatic...too sensitive?

NO

Too many people try to numb themselves to life...
to try not to feel to a depth worthy of it.

They drink to excess...
they take all manner of drugs to feel less.

They fill their lives with meaningless numbers of 'friends' (mere acquaintances)...
instead of really bonding to those of like mind.

How many would fight to the death in protection of you
(and how many of you would for them?)...
as would the true friend that a truly loyal dog would do?

Am I comparing friendships to dogs?

NO

Dogs are worthy of so much more.

They set the standard by which I measure friendship...and love.

Never will you see more loyalty and love
than the unmasked and full depth of love that a dog has for the one he trusts and loves.

When a dog feels...
it is in full depth.

There is no in between.

When he is hungry...
his mouth salivates fully...
his eyes lock on to his food...
there is nothing on his mind to distract him...
his whole existence at that moment lies before him...
and so...he devours.

He literally...wolfs down his food...
fully enjoying every bite, chew, and rushed swallow.

When he is excited...
he feels it throughout his body...
and so, every muscle reacts.

Happiness overwhelms him.

He doesn't hide it.

When he loves...
it is all encompassing...
he loves no other to the depth he feels for the ones he trusts.

His eyes show it as he lies next to you...
his head on his paws...or sometimes on your chest...
as he gives slow contented blinks as he looks into your eyes.

He lives and loves with a pure and open heart.

This is by which I gauge people...
by the pureness and openness of their heart.


Life is too short...
far too short...to not live and love fully and openly...
to not have a beautiful woman haunt your memories...
to not feel the ache of your heart when you think of her...
to not feel the music and the colors of a beautiful sunset...
to not sense the purity and depth of translucent and vibrant colors...
to not have all the senses come alive with every swallow
of a delicious and fulfilling meal...
one which fills every part of your body with a sense of energy
being emitted from the stomach and through the body...
to the tips of your toes and fingers...
and having the feeling of contentment of which may last for days...
to not feeling music as you match it to the movie of the mind...
living in another time and place of your choosing...
modifying the music with extra wide spatial separation...
isolating the instruments and feeling the percussive strikes
and the driving notes and chords on your skin and in your organs...
to not have the dizzying rush of
putting yourself on the roller coaster ride of the music...
allowing it to affect even your equilibrium.

To not be in hyper drive when experiencing the truly great 
simple pleasures of life is to have wasted those moments...
to not have stored them in the hard drive of the mind
to recall and re-experience at will.


Life which is not filled with deep and memorable events...
is one which is devoid of the marks of having truly lived.

If the simple pleasures of life don't...
make your heart ache and your head expand when experiencing their beauty...
fill you with deep satisfaction and contentment in life...
make you feel as if you were a god standing atop your mountain
and making everything in life just seem so right...
you are doing something wrong.


If you don't have a ravenous hunger...
one which forces you to wolf down your food...
don't eat...
you are not truly hungry.


If you don't feel a deep connection with those around you...
a feeling which makes you wish to see them happy...
find new friends...
you are wasting time which could be used to find those of like minds.


If you don't deeply feel music in the heart and mind...
if a beautiful sunset doesn't take you on an amazing journey...
then you are merely existing.


You need to change...
you must change.


To change your life...
you must realize three things:


1)  We only have one shot at life...
to truly live it.

Time is our most precious commodity.


Heaven...
 is what we make of life in the here and now (our lifetime)...
through our dreams...
our plans to achieve them...
and our fortitude to see them through to fruition
(deferred gratification).

This is the natural result of having lived life on a positive spiral.


Hell...
is realizing this too late.

It is to have lived a shallow life chasing hedonistic distractions...
not having planned for the future...
and so, having nothing for which to look forward...
except for the next short term distraction
until you can fool yourself no longer
and are filled with nothing but dread and deep regret.

This is the natural result of having lived life on a negative spiral.



2)   There are but two prime motivators in all of life:

Pursuit of pleasure

Aversion to pain


Use this knowledge to structure your life to maximize the first...
and to minimize the second.


I know it sounded flippant...
but I will go more into this in the final rule.



3)  You don't have to like it...
you just have to do it.


This one little lesson really says it all.

It is the prime lesson learned in sports...
and in the Army.


When it comes to planning for the future...
whether near or far...
reason must take precedence over that of emotion.

If it is to follow the long term plan over the short term pleasures...
to have long term success rather than to merely escape short term pain...
it is something that must be done.


Many things in life...
at first...
are uncomfortable...
embarrassing...
horrifying...
or even downright painful.


It is to place the expected results at the forefront of the mind...
and all discomfort involved as just something which will 
add to the pleasure at the end...
and which will eventually be looked forward to...
as the more discomfort experienced...
the greater the rate of growth...
and so, the quicker the results shall be achieved.


There is no greater pleasure than having a great desire...
planning the route to the achievement of the dream...
and of walking the chosen path to fruition of that dream...
 using the pain or discomfort experienced...
to drive you further and faster toward your goal...
and of enjoying the journey as a natural consequence.

This is taking the best of both worlds.

You will have not only conquered the aversion to pain...
you will have made pain a pleasure.

Win - Win


If chasing a love of a dream is not the prime motivator...
then use Aversion to Pain.

You must feel the pain...
or you must feel hatred for the situation so intensely...
that it motivates you to make changes. 

The first way is the most desirable path...
as it is guided by love...
and so, all of life is filled with pleasure.

The second way is guided by hate...
and so, you are living each moment in search of relieving pain...
until it is achieved...
and so...only the result is pleasurable...
however...such pleasure is sweet indeed.

However...
both are effective at achieving results.


A problem arises when people don't feel intensely enough
to allow either of the prime motivators to effect changes in their lives.


What am I talking about?


How about the incredibly stupid ways of numbing feelings which should be felt...
such as rightful embarrassment or shame at a situation where the person...
either through his actions or inactions...
is at a state where he could, at any time, make changes for the better.

Examples?

How about the PC idiocy of prioritizing feeling good about accepting being obese?
(not chubby...not just heavy or overweight...
I am talking about being clinically and chronically obese
to the point that it greatly shortens the quality and quantity of life).


Their message?

Accept yourself as you are.

Don't let others judge you.



Why is this mindset wrong?

Because...
they greatly increase their chances of suffering from
 a great number of diseases or maladies such as:

Cancer

Diabetes

 Congestive Heart Failure

Strokes

All manner of joint problems



Do I hate obese people?

NO

I am a Pathfinder.

I am a loyal and lovable dog.

As even dogs bark to alert the ones they love...
so must I bark.

I love pure hearted people.
I love them enough to be honest for their sake...
to point out a viable path to a better life.

I have known many obese people.

I feel for them.

Many have sweet personalities.

I know they often feel embarrassed about their weight.

The problem is that they love the momentary comfort that chronic overeating 
of the wrong foods give them...
more than they love themselves...or anyone else.

They prioritize feeling good for the short term...
over that of feeling good over the long term.

They are living a hedonistic lifestyle

(I am sorry...
but as the deleterious effects of obesity are known to each person...
it is a closed loop argument).

The problem is greatly magnified when they eat close to bedtime
instead of exercising at bedtime to stoke their metabolic rate
(heavy resistance exercise on some days...as well as aerobic exercise on other days).



Another example?


How about the taking of psychiatric medication when it is not needed?

Specifically...
situational depression
(rather than clinical depression).

When something in life causes heavy negative stress...
you are supposed to feel discomfort...
you are supposed to feel pain.

This is one of the prime motivators to get you to change the situation.

To take something to lessen the discomfort...
robs you of the motivation needed to effect a long term positive result.


Always remember...

You don't have to like it...
you just have to do it.

The way you motivate yourself to do it...
is your choice  :)


(taken by my wife last night...from our backyard).

2 comments:

  1. You have had so many great meals at restaurants in your area that it must have been disappointing to only get an average meal this time. Yet, there must have been something about that steak that inspired the passionate essay that followed! :)

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  2. Well, it was the prospect of having a truly memorable meal...such as the one I had had on our trip...
    which had put me into hyper drive. I had wanted this to be a new measure of deliciousness for Alex to greatly remember. I had wanted his first steak to light up his eyes and make him wolf down his food. I had wanted the experience to be a reward for trying a new type of food. Next time...I will go to a tried and true place of high quality.

    What had made my mind go from one subject leading to another was just re-living the sunset through the pictures while I listened to the attached song. I also remembered truly great loves and food in my life as a result. With me...one particular word or thought leads to so many other subjects. I've learned to control my pinball mind. However, often times in the past...people would look at me and simply say, "What are you talking about?" :)

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