Sunday, January 25, 2015

A Saturday Exam For Alex / Dinner - After Dinner Talk



Song:  Poor Side Of Town

Artist:  Johnny Rivers


I have long loved this song.
Not only does this remind me of my childhood
(this song came out in 1966...the year of our return to the US from Japan)...
it reminds me of Reno.

 When I used to live in California...
 my wife and I used to visit Reno twice a year.
This song often played in our favorite Casino.



Alex took a nation wide exam early this Saturday morning
at a school on the far side of town.

I will go into the exam itself in a few weeks when the results come in...
however...I am just so proud of Alex for pursuing these tests.
It is he who insists on taking these sort of exams often.

He is on the path of thorough preparation in life.

He constantly pushes the envelope...
he always seeks out challenges...
and he is always diligent in his studies.

When I was a very young...
all I did was daydream...
and wander the countryside alone...
until I then got into sports and started to straighten out
(although it wasn't until I spent 4 years in the ARMY
until I really started to get my life on track).

However...
my grades in school were never very good...
and although I loved reading the books in my father's library...
I rarely studied what I was supposed to for school.

Alex is so different from me (that is a good thing :)

Alex loves studying...and doing very well in school.

He took this exam to see where he stands in the nation
against much older students (University bound) who specialize in math...
the ones who are going into the hard sciences, engineering, and advanced math.


Our mountains are almost bare of snow.
It has been a disappointing winter so far.

Although the temperatures are cold enough...
we just haven't gotten the amount of snow that I would wish.



Alex after the exam.
I just waited in the parking lot, reading online current events, until he finished.


The restaurant we had wanted to eat at last night ended up having closed down...
just last month.

So...
I am still searching for the perfect burger.

Although they were highly rated...
their location was not conducive for the flourishment of a business.

We ended up going to our favorite Indian restaurant instead.


On Saturday night...
we went to our favorite seafood and pasta restaurant...
The Oyster Bar in the Atlantis Casino on the Sky Terrace
(on Friday and Saturday nights...they stay open until midnight).




Everytime Alex takes a special exam or goes to a competition...
we always celebrate at a nice restaurant.


Alex loves crab.

He got a 1 pound platter of King, Dungeness, and Snow Crab.


This was my dinner.

As I have said before...
this is simply the best seafood fettuccine I have ever had
(we picked up momma some Sushi rolls).


The Atlantis Casino is the best Casino in Reno.

The interior layout...
the restaurants...
especially those on the Sky Terrace...
they are all just of such high quality...
and the atmosphere is just so relaxing...
it is far and above any other casino in Reno.


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On our drive home...
I again talked to Alex of how he is on the correct path in life.

I told him of how so very proud of him we are.

I reiterated how it is his excellent study habits which
are the key to his future...
and how this will translate into excellent work habits.

As I often do...
I talked to him of his future...
and as I do even more often...
I stressed to him the one key in life
which leads to happiness.

For ultimate happiness throughout one's life...
one has to live life on a positive spiral.

I often talk about this concept...
because without it...
people have a basic unrest...
a feeling of being lost...
of an underlying unhappiness which shows
in their demeanor and actions...
and while the reason is plainly apparent to those around them...
 the concept seems to constantly elude those of whom are unhappy.


The basic difference between those who live on a negative spiral...
and those who live on a positive spiral...
is that those who are on a negative spiral
are constantly looking to make themselves not feel so poorly
by finding a short term pleasure in the here and now to cheer them up...
for without this daily short term fix...
they feel bored and depressed
(of course...they have no long term outlook).

Those who live on a positive spiral...
constantly feel good because they are living with the fruits of the trees 
from those they had planted in the past...
and they are constantly planting more for their future...
and so, have everything for which to look forward.

They have their dream...
and they have their objectives.

By working towards the dream and the objectives...
they not only have peace of mind...
they have an underlying drive...a lust for life.

Everything in life is beautiful...
because, not only can they see their future...
they are taking steps towards it on a daily basis.

This is, of course, the essence of Deferred Gratification.


Far more often than not...
the many people I have met in life who were angry or depressed in basic constitution...
were living life on a negative spiral.


Although I do not truly understand depression...
I do know feeling good.

I know this sounds incredibly arrogant of me...
but I know me.

I know that a person should always have a deep underlying happiness...
a feeling of vitality, and of serenity.

I also know that if one does not...
he should realize there is something in his life he needs to fix.

One should always feel happy inside...
this should be the norm.

It should be unacceptable to live any other way.

However...
the person must take ownership of his own happiness.

We must secure our own futures so we can then have no worries.

This is done through forethought...
which will give rise to foresight...
which will give you your dream...
and your plan to achieve.

One important point...
so many people strive to surround themselves with distractions in life...
this includes the company of others.

Much of the dreaming for the future happens in solitude.
Too many forego this important aspect in their lives.

Each of us needs time alone to reflect...
to ensure his life is on track...
to recharge himself by seeing his future and where he stands
in his accomplishment of it.

For children...
solitude breeds their dreams.



I have an almost constant feeling of deep happiness.

This is not to say I never get angry or frustrated.
I do...but my frustration usually does not last long...
a few seconds...sometimes a few minutes...
but I simply cannot stay mad for long.
That underlying feeling of deep happiness just takes over...
and I frequently cannot help but laugh at my previous frustration

(although my rage does sometimes burn extremely hot...
and I must constantly guard against the few seconds of rage 
which could destroy my future...in general...it usually takes extreme circumstances
to awaken the inner beast...and I have always been successful in recaging the tiger before
any lasting damage occurred...but this is something I think everyone has experienced).


I love experiencing everything in life.

I love to laugh and to connect with others on a deep level
(although, I hate superficiality).

I always have a song in my heart...
and a dream in my head.

I am constantly seeing the future I wish to create
as I stand atop my imaginary 10,000 ft. snow covered mountain...
and I see all of the steps I had taken to reach it
(of course...as viewed in reverse  :)

Although I know that life can throw curve balls...
I know that ultimately...
I will thrive...
as I have my dreams to chase.

As for my life right now...
there are no dark clouds on my horizon...
as my future is secure.

I have nothing but beautiful sunsets to view...
and all of life to experience.


Again...
this is how everyone should feel all of the time.


Dream of your future
(establish the tip of the positive spiral)

Make, solid, realistic plans with closely spaced objectives
(the path of the spiral)

Work towards the dream on a daily basis
(with each conquered objective...
you have planted another tree for the future)

Now...
this is critical...

then and only then can you enjoy the here and now.

Too many people attempt to fool themselves into thinking
they are happy by engaging in daily diversions.

You can only feel truly happy 
by getting rid of any dark clouds of doubt on your horizon...
by having your future fully plotted and with you sailing towards it.

When this is done...
you will not be able to feel anything but deep happiness inside.


This was the gist of my talk with Alex on the way home.

Living life on a positive spiral is so crucial to having a deeply satisfying life...
I will, once again, go over the basic three for setting the stage
 for living life on a positive spiral...
without which, leads a person to not being at his best to accomplish his goals...

A Nutritious and Delicious Diet

Proper Quality / Quantity Exercise

Deep Restorative Sleep


In the next article...
I will stress these three...
as so many do without one...if not all.

We make sure Alex gets plenty of each...
as having plentiful amounts of each is so important.




2 comments:

  1. Those celebratory dinners almost always get my mouth watering. So nice that Alex gives you plenty of good reasons to celebrate. :)

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  2. He just makes me so proud. I am constantly amazed by his drive and achievements. He is always looking to improve. He never just rests on his past achievements. He maintains his focus and his intellectual endurance.

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