Friday, July 25, 2014

Alex's Views Of 'Spring Waltz' At The Halfway Point



Song:  One Love (Theme To 'Spring Waltz')

Group:  Loveholic




I am having Alex watch this fantastic Korean Drama:  'Spring Waltz'.

We have been watching one to two episodes a night after our nightly walks.

I have several reasons for having Alex watch such dramas:

1)  The most important one is to show him the great importance
that true love plays in life.  Of how a great adventure awaits him
later in life if he prepares himself to be a person worthy of such love...
and of how searching for, and waiting for, true love...
 is one of our sacred missions in life.


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2)   To teach him the basic classifications of people in life:


(Although there were two highly manipulative antagonists in this drama...
they were not truly evil or too Egocentric.  One was very protective...
the other was acting out of jealousy).



An Egocentric person.


This type of person lives without ever having known true love...
and he/she is incapable of giving it.

In essence...
they seek ways to have others please them...
to serve them in some manner.

They are predators looking for prey...
or they are the parasites in life.

Their world revolves around them.

When they give...
they receive no pleasure from it.

When they receive...
they automatically feel it was owed to them.

Just look for their insincere automatic smile
 (often too fast for a true emotional response).

Many have an exaggerated smile...
one which is held a little too long...
and they smile with dead eyes
(no laughing eyes...and they often stare (a phony lock on)
into the other person's eyes while they are using their peripheral vision
to monitor the person's reactions to see if they were successful in their deceit).

Some try to master the laughing eyes of a sincere smile
without realizing that an insincere smile looks the same with each event
(and usually made to look too happy for the event)...
while the sincere one is modulated by the heart...
the mouth shape and the amount of the eye involvement is slightly different...
depending on the amount of happiness they truly feel.

Their ulterior motive is to get something better in return...
usually in some obligatory fashion.

As their focus in life is not in a deep bonding with others
(even their friendships are superficial)...
but usually revolve around material things or social positions.

They crave
power in some fashion...
and are hyper concerned with social standing...
and they love wielding it like a scepter and crown of a King or Queen.

They are frequently rude in some fashion...
especially when they perceive they have some social standing above the others...
and it is frequently through dismissive behavior.

Their primary mode of operation is through manipulation...
usually through social manipulation...
but sometimes through force or fear.

They do not believe such a thing as true love exists.


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A Hedonist (Short Term Thinker).


This type of person simply loves some type of short term pleasure
above all else...even above themselves.

They are the ones seeking to have the thrill of the day over
building a future for themselves.

They are the addicts of all types.

They are deeply unhappy in life...
except when they get their next fix
(drugs, gambling, reckless behavior, etc.).

They are incapable of giving true love.

They love their short term pleasures above all else...
and they will ultimately sacrifice all others in their pursuit of them.

And NO...
it is not a disease...
it is a choice they make everyday.

They often attempt to manipulate others through pity.

Their prey for their parasitical lifestyles are the loving and giving people.


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A loving and giving person.


This type of person has an amazing capacity for love.

They are highly empathetic...
and their hearts are open and free.

They derive great pleasure by giving love...
and receiving it.

They live their lives guided by love.

They know true love...and they know how to give it.

Even should they not always receive love in return...
they love giving it.

They are inherently happy.
They are enthralled by the simple pleasures in life.

All of life is an adventure...
for they know that even though they may not have found
true love at the moment...
it may be just around the next bend...
and so, they live in great expectation of finding it.

They are respectful to others
(a major telling point)...
not only through actions...
but through their inactions where others may suffer should they act.

They make the best friends and mates.

They are the true gems in life.


A truly loving and giving person doesn't mean they must be doormats.

They also know that for them to be worthy of true love...
they must first love and respect themselves.

True love only exists for those who love and respect themselves...
and who are loving and giving to others.

When two of the same meet in life...
that is when true love may form.


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A person leading a guided life (Long Term Thinker).


This is a necessary trait for any successful person...
whether it be in...
academics...
business...
or love.

For a person who has...
a dream...
a viable plan...
and the will to see it through...
success is a foregone conclusion.

For them...
Deferred Gratification is a pleasurable component of life.


It is not a burden.

It is the ever sweetening excitation which steadily builds 
as one walks on the path of a positive spiral in life.


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Although there are other classes in life...
so long as the person is leading a guided life...
and is loving and giving in life...
none of the others really matter.


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3)  To give him examples of the traits of the classifications of people...
so he may recognize them in the future
(work, social occasions, friendship, and love).


Alex is exceptionally pure hearted.

He has always been a deeply loving and giving person...
and he is a long term thinker.

However...
he is also relatively inexperienced in life.


I greatly fear that sometime in the future...
some manipulative woman may try to steal his heart
in a parasitical attempt to have him merely provide her material possessions 
while she wishes to live like a queen and to treat him as her servant.

I also want him to recognize the various games of deceit many people play
in order to manipulate others.




I also want him to recognize the traits of a pure hearted woman...
someone with whom he may find true love.

In all of life...
there is simply nothing more beautiful
than a pure hearted woman.



I want him to realize that the actions of a person says so much 
about who they really are.

The young girl in the drama was exceptionally pure hearted.

She had risked her life for someone she deeply cared about.
Her actions showed her heart.

She is an exceptional child actor
(I know...many think I should have said actress.
Oh?...doctor...doctress?  :)

Her facial expressions and body language transveyed her character's emotions superbly. 

I want Alex to recognize a pure hearted person so he may 
enjoy one of life's great pleasures...
the meeting and bonding of someone with whom
he may find great friendship and love.


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After last night's double episode viewing...
I asked Alex what he thought about certain aspects of the drama so far.

First of all...
this is Alex's second Korean Drama.

The first one I had him watch was 'Winter Sonata'.

Alex wasn't particularly enthusiastic about watching a drama last summer.

This summer's drama is going more smoothly.

Next summer, I will have him watch my all time favorite Korean Drama...
'Summer Scent'.

However...
back to his impressions of 'Spring Waltz'.

I asked him what he had thought of the little girl in the drama
(The main character when she was young).

He said that he thought she was very compassionate...
and that she cared deeply for her friend (whom she referred to as her brother).

I asked what actions demonstrated her love for her 'brother'.

He said that she had risked her life when she thought her 'brother'
was in danger.

He said that she also showed her caring for him by 
accepting him as her 'brother' even after learning
 that he was uneducated and had lied to her.



I had asked him questions about the other characters in the drama.

Although he could tell if they were good or not...
he still has a difficult time explaining why he thinks so.

I want him to get to the point of knowing a person's character
not only through their actions, inactions, and reactions 
(the combination of the three being the truest way)...
but by reading their emotions through their body language...
and especially through their facial expressions...
and by reading their eyes.

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I know...
many think I am crazy to think that many of life's lessons 
can be taught through asian dramas.

I will go into why I know it is so in a later article 
at the conclusion of this drama.


My wife often says that I have the emotions of a teenage girl...
 the impulsivity of Peter Pan...
and that I walk around looking at life through rose colored glasses  :)

Perhaps so.
All I know is that I love...
Love...and all of life.

I am deeply happy
with the simple pleasures in life...
I greatly enjoy everyday...
and I enjoy looking forward to the future
and all of the great adventures it holds.

All of life is a great symphony.

 I am its composer...
and I am orchestrating a masterpiece.


This outlook is what I wish to give Alex.

By first being able to dream of better things...
great happiness in life becomes a great possibility
to fully realize through planning and action.


To experience a great love in life...
 makes all of life wonderful...
from that point forward...forever.

Even were you to lose that person...
the love stays forever...
and forever gives hope for the future.

It is not merely like a drama...
it is far...far better.

The Korean and Japanese Dramas I have been watching for many years now...
are mere reminders of the great loves I have experienced in my life...
and so, are especially heartfelt.


True love is quite real.

It is through Asian Dramas that I wish to illustrate this to Alex.

Through the great hope of true love...
Alex will have even more to look forward to in life...
and so, will have an even greater hunger to reach his goals in life.








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