Sunday, March 2, 2014

Alex Recieves Lessons In Life



Song:  Reflections Of My Life

Group:  Marmalade


Earlier this week, my elder sister called to tell me that my younger sister
was in the hospital with a potentially deadly condition.

We took Alex out of school for two days...
and we drove to California.

I won't be showing a picture of her to not only guard her privacy...
but to focus this article on the lessons I wanted Alex to learn.

We had stayed at my mother's house...
and went to visit my younger sister at the hospital during the day.

Although she is stable...
and surgery was performed...
she must make major lifestyle changes if she is to live much longer.

She will have to convalesce for many months.


Three generations walking hand in hand
as we were walking back to the car at the hospital...
my mother, Alex, and me.


I went to not only visit my younger sister at the hospital...
but to get all of the information I could so I may coordinate with her work...
and the city she works for, to ensure the correct paperwork is initiated 
and followed through, in regards to her benefits.

I will be reviewing her contract 
and contacting the Human Rescources department next week.


Of all the times it had to storm in the Sierra Nevadas...
it started on the day we wished to go to California...
and lasted until we got back.

I had to ensure the timing of the drive over the mountain pass
was during times of the day which were above freezing, as otherwise...
there would have been danger of ice on the roads 
(had there been...I wouldn't have taken my family over the pass).


These pictures were taken on the way back...
at midday.


I had talked to Alex on the drive there, and back...
 about the importance of life...and of living it well.


The major lessons I wanted Alex to learn are that:


We only have one shot at life...
to never take it for granted.


Without our health...
our ability to experience life to the degree we should...
to fully enjoy the beauty of it...
is greatly diminished.


Life is fragile...
it is impermanent...
that while accidents or illness can strike at anytime...
so long as he practices long term planning in safety and health...
and he never gives up in the journey to his destination...
then death can be faced without regret

(the application of my often used metaphor of 
a warrior dying with sword in hand while facing the enemy).

It is when a person does it to himself through his poor life habits...
or by not being vigilant in accident prevention...
that it is then when it becomes regrettable.


While it seems counter intuitive...
reflections of life should be done before hand.

Through the use of forethought...
paths in life may be prioritized and plotted according
to long term planning of:

Health - by not doing anything ultimately harmful to the body...
and by being proactive in its maintenance and enhancement.

Safety - by limiting risks in life...
by not taking unnecessary ones...
and by planning to handle the necessary ones in case of mishap...
life may still be lived fully...
and so, fully enjoyed.

Goal Achievement - without which, life becomes merely existing.


By reflecting on life...
by pre-walking a path in life in the mind
(especially when considering a decision with possible life altering ramifications)...
by allowing the mental path to come to its natural logical conclusion...
when an actual crossroad is reached...
a correct decision will have already been made...
as you will have already lived it.




A man must always be the captain of his ship...
and never dependent upon his crew.
He must never be an anchor.

His job is to plot a correct course in life
so his ship may carry his family in safety...
 in calm waters...
and with a safe harbor within sailing distance.

He must properly prepare and provision his ship
for the inevitable storms.

He must properly maintain his ship
so they may sail without a care...
so they may then enjoy their journey without worry.


A proper Captain...
thinks ahead...
plans ahead...
prepares ahead...
acts ahead.



A Captain does not carelessly swing out from a yardarm
 above shark filled waters for the thrill of it
 (if there ever is a time for that...it is when he is still a deckhand).


A true Captain does nothing to limit his time on deck 
(ruin his health or shorten his life through poor life decisions)...
he never places short term pleasures over long term happiness.
His crew depends on him.

He must remain ever vigilant...
it is always his watch.





















2 comments:

  1. I think the life lessons you speak of are often not easily learned by the young, as it is so easy to assume that you will have your health no matter what you do. Perhaps having a sick relative will help Alex realize how vulnerable we all are.

    Best to your sister and your family during this difficult time.

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  2. Thank you. Alex is cautious by nature, likes eating healthfully, and he exercises. Just by him doing these...he will be doing almost everything he can to ensure a long and healthy life.

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