Thursday, February 13, 2014

Living Life With Arms Wide Open



Song:  With Arms Wide Open

Group:  Creed



The all important bonding process between parent and child lasts a lifetime...
and only gets stronger the more you engage with your child.

My wife and I had made a conscious decision to have a child...
only because it was a time of stability in our lives...
and because we had wanted to have a child more than anything else.

Although I was already in my 40s when we decided to start a family...
I only wanted to do so when I knew I could devote my full love and affection
to my child.

We had already lived our lives...
so we could devote our lives to our child.

Once a parent decides to live in the service of his child...
to do everything he can to guide his child on the correct path in life...
to further his ultimate happiness in life...
that is living with an open heart and mind.

It is through the giving of your time to your child with demonstrated love and affection...
by putting his future and happiness as the focal point...
by showing him the world and the great beauty in it...
by guiding him to love learning and life through the positive reinforcement
of everything that is good and just in life
so he may look at life as one filled with great love and adventure...
that is living life with arms wide open.

A child's heart is pure...
and so, his love is pure.

Give openly of your love and affection...
your child is a pure reflection of the culmination of your actions.

If you feel embarrassed, or feel that you will somehow spoil your child...
or that you will, somehow, lose your child's respect for you...
that you will lose your leadership position as a parent
with open love and affection...
know that you are wrong

(true leadership is through example...and a true leader leads from the front).


If it is seen as unseemly to give open affection to your child in your society
(an often misguided social construct in many societies)...
damn them.

Then your society is wrong.

If the rest of the world deems it unseemly...
then the rest of the world is wrong.

Damn the rest of the world...
your child comes first and foremost.

True love and affection is always right
(it is in the lack of structure and the guidance to stay within its parameters...
which spoils a child).

Living with an open heart and mind
naturally leads to living life with arms wide open.

Your child learns about true love...
when he is given it.

When he is shown true love and how to truly live life through open arms...
he learns how to show it, and truly give it, to others.






Until Alex was 3.5 years old...
he couldn't speak a word.

We had taught him basic sign language...
and he communicated by text on a portable speller.

When he was 2 years old...
he was typing simple phrases and sentences.

Alex had made this phrase on the kitchen counter...
and his mother just had to take a picture of it.


I was showing Alex WOW (World of Warcraft) on our old computer some ten years ago
(The sound was too intense for him at this time.
Only the sound coming from the headphones
on my head was soft enough for him to enjoy).









Although Alex was extremely sensitve to noise at this time...
he still wanted to experience many things.

He loved water rides especially...
except the noise from the ride and riders on the final plunge  :)










Alex's first helicopter ride.


I love being with...
and teaching my son all about the world...
more than anything.








Our son still has his pure heart.

He has always known the trueness of our love for him...
because living and loving with Arms Wide Open
is demonstrated through actions...
and not merely verbalized.


Our realized Mammoth Mountain ride that summer.



By living life with Arms Wide Open...
your child will know that he will never lose your love for him...
that he may take chances in life without fear...
as he will always have you to help guide him with your wisdom...
to help him back to his feet should he stumble...
that you will never be disappointed in him if he strikes out swinging while at bat...
that he is THE most important person in the world to you...
that you will always be there for him.




It is in this manner that a child will be able to look at the challenges in life
without fear or trepidation...
that he may continually search for those mountains to climb...
and from which, he will eventually shoot for the moon.


The essence to living with Arms Wide Open...
is to live not running from fear...
but to live pursuing your dreams.




P.S. - Always remember that there are an almost infinite number
of ways to do something wrong.

It is the fool who specializes in pointing out what is wrong...
and having no response on how to do it right.

Life is kept simple by focusing on doing what is right.

Only then will wrong not matter.
Just by doing what is right...
he will only need to concentrate on that one thing...
not on all of the almost infinite number of ways which are wrong.







6 comments:

  1. :) Touching blog post.

    I will definitely have to join you guys for a Mammoth ride one day! I need an excuse to dust the....dust off of my bike :P

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  2. I was a lot more worn out than I would have expected from that ride. I will be taking your mom on the Truckee River ride sometime this summer. You should join us.

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  3. Love all the old photos! Alex's smiles and playfulness are adorable. As he has matured and gotten more serious, do you still see that side of his personality?

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  4. Alex still has his innocent and optimistic outlook. He has gotten more serious and competitive...but he always has his tender and playful side just under the surface. He still loves to laugh and enjoy himself. I still see the bubbly child in him. He is, however, growing so quickly. He is getting so mature in so many ways. Although, I think Alex will always have the optimistic and innocent nature of his younger years.

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  5. just discovered this blog
    wonderful posts
    Alex sounds amazing

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  6. Thank you. I recognize you from Yuji's Blog. Welcome.

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