Monday, July 15, 2013

Alex's First Diving Board Experience / Empathy Movie Night



Song:  From The Beginning Until Now

From:  Korean TV Drama "Winter Sonata"

Yesterday, before Alex's Sunday weight training...
he did his Sunday 1 hour swim.

Yesterday was Alex's first time off a diving board in a public pool.

He was cautious in his dives...
and he said his face hurt
(he dove feet first while looking down at the water :)






Alex had fun.
He practiced jumping off the dive board for the first half hour...
then he just free swam for the remainder of the time.

We got home and he rested for almost an hour 
before we started his Sunday weight training.

After his weight training...
Alex took a shower...
had some free time...
 ate dinner...
and then we started the first segment
 (approximately 1 hour long for each of 20 segments)
of a long Korean Drama TV series.

This series is called "Winter Sonata"...
and was the beginning of the Korean Drama craze in Japan
many years ago.

The same director had made one Drama for each season.
Each is fantastic.  I have long loved Korean and Japanese dramas.
The acting is very good, as well as the story line...
and although the story lines in many of the dramas are so similar to each other...
the acting and character development...
the music and the scenery...
are just so great...
that they are very addictive.

What really sets Korean and Japanese dramas apart from so many others 
are the actors' facial expressions...
or the lack of facial expressions in telling parts...
each of which tell so much.

My goal in having Alex watch these dramas is chiefly for him
to be able to see direct correlations of facial expressions...
to that of the other expressed emotions or actions.

The Asian dramas excel at using close ups of facial expressions
to transmit deep emotions...
frequently those which are intended not to be spoken...
or even those which are not for the other person to see (hidden expression).

The Asians, in particular, have a complex social system...
one in which subtleties are greatly implied through the use of...
anywhere from a full range of facial expressions...
to that of no expression.

Many facial expressions are just the barest hint of an eyebrow raise...
to a fully obvious glare...
and then each having potentially different meanings depending
on the duration or timing of the expression...
far more so than in Occidental cultures.

As a Spectrum child...
Alex has a more difficult time reading intent or emotional states
through facial expressions than do most children.

In Asian dramas...
the face is far more telling of the heart...
than even their body language
(which is typically subdued).

Another reason is that the particular dramas I will be having Alex watch...
I have already seen, and I wish for Alex to get to know human nature
as expressed in social settings.

These dramas are filled with the pure and innocent hearts of the protagonists...
who must overcome a damaging blow of circumstance...
or betrayal and sabotage by the evil antagonists in the stories.

They incorporate the age old winning formula of good against evil...
or of the good against seemingly insurmountable odds.

Another reason is that in many of the dramas...
there is suffering and hope...
love and hate...
life and death.

These are like the great story tellers of old
who had passed on wisdom through lessons of life...
as expressed in their tales.

In these tales of wisdom...
I hope Alex will learn to recognize a pure hearted woman
(where the true beauty of a woman lies)...
 so he may realize many of the important traits in a true woman
and that he may know that which is important in a potential future mate...
so he will not have to accept just those around him (a false woman).

By broadening his horizons beyond even our own country's boundaries...
he will not just settle for a less than desirable mate because he doesn't 
think that any others exist elsewhere.

Just as a woman must ensure she finds a mate whom
her heart desires most...
so must a man.

These dramas give true hope to each child for his/her future...
to give him the deep desire for something, and for someone better...
while also letting him realize that for him to secure his dream woman...
he must make himself into a dream man (and vice a versa).

When a child knows this...
it motivates him to better himself...
to improve himself in all aspects...
so he may become a worthy mate...
and so he may then choose one worthy of him
(a man must become a prince... if he is to demand a princess).

These dramas let children know that true love does exist...
and that although it may not be easy to find...
it is worth the search...
 and most importantly...
once found...
that it will transform his/her life...
forever.

True love outlasts the person loved.

Once discovered...
it is never forgotten...
and forever enriches.


Everything in life becomes forever beautiful...
from the mountains...to the sunsets...
absolutely everything.


Bah...Fairy Tale you say?
Pure fantasy you say?
True love...a fool's quest you say?

Fairy Tales are popular because they speak of the human condition...
that which strikes us all to the heart.

Fantasies open our minds to a future which could be...
would we just prepare for them adequately.
They are metaphors for that which should be.

Each speak of truth while merely being set in a fantastic surrounding. 

They give us all the optimism to look for something better...
to strive to become someone better...
that our futures are destined by only...
 the amount of effort...
ingenuity...
perseverance...
 we demonstrate throughout life.


True Love...a fool's quest?

It is a fool who doesn't make it one of his sacred quests in life.

Saying no to true love...
is saying no to life.




P.S....
For those who have never seen a Korean Drama...
I say to start out with:

Winter Sonata...
Autumn in my Heart...
Spring Waltz...
Summer Scent.

There are so many others...
including many great Japanese Dramas.

However...
to set a great standard...
start with these four.









2 comments:

  1. Ha, love that Alex enjoyed diving off the board. He doesn't seem to have any fears.

    I'll be curious to hear how Alex enjoys the Asian dramas. I can't imagine my son watching those for a long, long time.

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  2. Each segment is only one hour...and we will be watching these almost every night for a while (until school starts). Alex seemed to enjoy the first segment. Tonight Alex is going to watch a science show on the Elements...but tomorrow we will watch the next segment. By the way...if you are interested...all four of the "seasons" are on HULU plus.

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