Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Justifiable Confrontation: A Matter Of Mental Health - II




Song:  Heart Of Courage (Extended Version)

Group:  Two Steps From Hell




There are those who espouse that there is never an excuse
to have to go to the physical level in any confrontation.

Some even go so far as (non)thinking that all confrontations should be avoided.

Besides being foolish in their expression of their non thought out views...
it is a fallacious argument...purposely deceptive...
for NO thinking person who has the slightest
experience in life could possibly think that.

And NO...
going monkey
(see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil)
is NOT an option.

Along with fundamental rights...
there lie within...
fundamental responsibilities...
to ones self...and to others.

There ARE those whom will attempt to covet...
everything you have...
including your self respect.

Those same ones also attack others.

There is sometimes simply no option but to confront them...
in order to protect the innocent and the good.

Of course...
when faced with a possible deadly force scenario...
and it is avoidable...especially when you are with your family...
and you have the choice of confrontation...
or of departing the area in all haste...
without question...
you must get your family to safety.


I also well know that sometimes one must hold ones tongue...
and that ones actions must be restrained...
 if you are to not sacrifice the long term good for the short term
in a lesser scenario.

No matter how much you truly wish to respond in kind to an aggressive person...
when you are faced with the sacrificing of your long term happiness
for the short term satisfaction of soundly defeating an opponent...
you simply must not.

The natural impulse to metaphorically sever the head of your enemy
and to hold it high on the battlefield with a cry of victory...
although supremely satisfying to our primal urges as men...
in most instances, it is usually frowned upon in society...
and in most cases...must be resisted.

Especially in most modern workplaces...
to not do so would be to endanger the economic
survival of your family.

To not get fired from an otherwise stable and well paying job...
one in which has a generous and early retirement...
one in which allows you to build, and ensure, a base of safety and happiness
for you and your family... the choice of long term
over the short simply must take precedence.

As men, our toughest opponent is usually the beast that lies within.

Now...
it does not mean one has to never confront another in society...
it just means that one must temper his response to a socially accepted level.

It all lies within the realm of Assertion vs. Aggression.

Assuring you are in the right...
and are accurately portrayed as the Asserter...
and not the Aggressor...
takes forethought.

It means knowing the laws...
the policies and procedures...
knowing the rules of the game before hand.

It all boils down to assuring you are correct...
and are always the Asserter...
and never the Aggressor.

In general...
so long as one stays within the parameters of accepted behavior
and appropriate responses by never being the aggressor...
you may respond to unjustified attacks through justifiable confrontation.


Everyone has the right to self protection.

Especially when it comes to the realm of the physical.

It all comes down to knowing what the parameters
of socially acceptable behavior are...
the rules of engagement...
and this is extremely important...
BY LAW.

In the U. S. ...
you always have the absolute right to physical self protection...
so long as you never cross the line from that of being an Asserter...
to that of being an Aggressor.

Your responses must be the minimum necessary to prevent
an imminent attack...and once the situation de-escalates...
so must the response.

(There are some exceptions...
some State laws protect occupants of dwellings.
Just by an intruder being in your home...
his mere presence constitutes a threat so high...
that you may assume him to be a deadly threat...
with no other signs of aggression or threat).


I've had many physical altercations in my life
 (often times in the defense of others)...
dozens actually...
however, I have never been punished for any of them...
not as a youth (my father praised my assertive acts)...
not when I was in the Army...
and not afterwards.

Mine were always an appropriate assertive physical response
to the physical aggression of a bully.

I have always been in the moral and legal right.
I was always able to explain the conditions in context...
and witnesses have always confirmed my innocence in the affairs...
as I was always the asserter...
and never the aggressor.


These two words lie at the heart of this concept.

Asserter:  The one who protects from Aggression.

Aggressor:  The coveter or attacker without the virgin rights.


There is one extremely important point which you simply MUST understand...

SELF PROTECTION IS A FUNDAMENTAL RIGHT OF ALL.

It is sometimes necessary to employ force upon another
to prevent force from being employed upon you.

To not have this fundamental right is to have to forfeit 
everything one has, including self respect...
even that of life itself...
to anyone who merely raises the level
of an engagement to that of violence.

To not have the right to self protection is to be in automatic loss default to evil.
Just by raising the act to one which goes beyond your threshold 
of possible responses...they win...and take all...
and all without a fight.


Common sense...
yet, there are still those who mindlessly condemn all who
are participants in a "fight".

They don't care to investigate into who was...
 the Asserter...
and who was the Aggressor.

When it is a parent who automatically condemns all participants of a fight...
no matter how righteous their child as the Asserter...
it is a betrayal of not only the child...
but of all that is good and right.

It places the child in an unjustifiably untenable position.

The child must then live in constant fear of having to make a choice between...
the pain and humiliation of submission to a bully...
which with each escalating act...
further diminishes the child's self respect and deepens his self loathing
(of which leads to depression)...
or that of facing the loss of his parent's love (at least in his mind)...
and facing punishment from those who should be protecting and supporting him.

You must realize that this is forcing him into making a "Sophie's Choice".


An Asserter is one who should be praised.

He is the one who had shown great...
 courage...
temperance...
 love of justice and respect.

It is the Aggressor...
and all those who had played monkey...
 who are to be condemned.


In Conclusion:

To stand for that which is good and right is...
to live life without being enslaved to fear and self loathing...
to know the great beauty of love and life...
of which is only made possible 
by living a life of respect, honor, and justice.

If a person "believes" that violence is never the answer...
not even as a righteous asserter...
while he may choose to live life with no self respect...
no love of self...no love of others...no love of life...
a canary in a cage of his own making...
instead of an eagle with the freedom of all the skies...

what is he to do when he becomes a parent...
and his family is faced with imminent harm from physical aggression?


There is simply no possible rational response to defeat this argument.

Check mate  :)















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