Saturday, November 24, 2012

Alex Turns 12 Years Old - A Look At Years Past



Song:  Cavatina

Artist:  John Williams






Alex turned 12 years old last week.

We had a quiet family dinner out at a seafood all you can eat buffet.

Afterwards, it was just we three at the dinner table with Alex's birthday 
Red Velvet cake.




He had gotten a new game for his 3DS...among a few other things.
He is here... just relaxing while playing his 3DS game the next day.


So why the sad song at what should be a celebration?

As I have noted before...
each year forward for him...
brings him closer to flying from our nest.

I treasure our time together...so very much.
I see him growing in so many ways...
and yet...
I see all of the pureness in him...as if he were still a young child.
Alex is still so innocent in so many ways...so pure hearted.


My mother holding her grandson.

Alex was a few weeks old here.
He was born with a full head of hair
(normal for Japanese babies...Alex is 3/4 Japanese).


Alex loved to be held...
OK...
he INSISTED on it  :)

He would cry unless he was swaddled, held, or rocked.

We didn't mind...
we loved to hold him.

We never let him cry alone...we NEVER ignored him
(except in the extinguishment of negative behavior at the moment...
crying is a reaction and not an action...and so does not usually apply).
He slept in an attachable crib bed side.

Mama was always near his side.
He was not spoiled by it.

To the contrary...
he is a very warm and loving child whom is filled 
with love...optimism...passion...confidence...hope...
and he is always very compassionate toward all others...
and all life forms.







Our old home in CA... just in the background.

Alex holding on to a piece of plastic plant tie.
During our walks, he would look for something on the ground to pick up
and hold on to for hours.  Among his favorites were leaves, rocks, twigs...
or really anything which stood out as an anomaly in the environment.


Once again...
NEVER think that unfettered and open love and affection shared with your child
will spoil him.

It is in the lack of boundaries and the structure to guide him to keep within
the parameters of moral and just conduct that spoils a child.

It is simply not enough to merely believe it...
you must live it.

In order to live it...
you must be there...
body, heart, and soul.






























The Emotional...


The Intellectual...


The Physical...


The Creative.

No part of the great lessons in the human experience must be foregone 
if your child is to live and love fully.

As Alex has just turned 12 years old...
and I see time slipping by...
is this article a manifestation of my being a sentimental old fool?

NO...
I am not old  :)
(just shy of 53 yrs. old).

Am I then... a sentimental fool?

If you must be foolish...
be foolishly open in your love and affection.

Everything in life is all about the quantity of quality...
isn't it...?


While everything in life is a balance of energy levels had...
and energy lost in the amount of effort given...
passion for life...
and love of another...
are the two things which give more energy than spent...
and give ever greater returns...
the deeper the levels of passion and love you have.

The more given...
the greater received...
and the greater the surplus of energy you will have.

They are the two things which you need not hold back on
for fear of depleting your energy reserves.

To economize in these two areas is to be... ultimately... foolish.


Being a parent is such a privilege.
To be able to guide a young life toward a life filled with passion...
and love...
and conducted with morality and justice in his heart...
is such a great honor.


To deny open love and affection...
is to deprive yourself...
and all those around you...
 the great symphonies...the great works of art...
the greatest adventure...
that is life.




2 comments:

  1. Great retrospective! I know how you must feel looking back at Alex's life. He was such a cute baby! And now he is becoming a fine young man. It is obvious that the love you both gave him has been the foundation of his growth.

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  2. Thank you...and yes...open love and affection has such a positive effect on people...especially children. It is absolutely vital to the growth of a child.

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