Sunday, October 14, 2012

Concept Of Formative Years 1 - 5



Song:  As Tears Go By

Rendition:  jmverhoef80



It has been known for centuries
(common sense - correlations / old wives tales)...

formal studies have shown for decades
(theorized causations from studies' correlations)...

a twenty year research project closely following 64 participants
(surveys of home life correlated to brain imaging scans)...

showed that positive cognitive stimulation at age four
(number of books / educational toys / parental involvement/warmth/support...etc)...

had shown positive physiological brain development 
(as demonstrated through brain scans showing a greater developed cortex...
as well as other key parts of the brain directly involved with cognition)...

in those children who received proper parenting in their FORMATIVE years
(the period of greatly heightened brain pruning and synapse strengthening and growth).







Of course, most parents have many educational toys for their children.

How many parents spend their time with their child as he plays for hours on end...
interacting with him...giving positive feedback...praising him when
he solves a puzzle correctly...encouraging him to explore by guiding his mind
to new areas of play by playing with him?

Alex had our whole living as his area of play and exploration...
and, this is important...
his mother was there with him.

He was not imprisoned in his play area while my wife just watched T.V..
She was there (me too, when I wasn't working).

We interacted with him in his play area.

We, of course, knew of the formative years...
of the physiological changes that occur...
especially during these years.

You set the stage for the rest of your child's life...
not only cognitively...
but emotionally.

With constant positive feedback for exploration...
he will see learning as fun.








With a parent who gives full affection, warmth, and caring through his/her actions...
the child learns trust.  He will also learn to give affection, warmth, and caring to others.

You don't need scientific studies to tell you this.





Having a child is not our right
(his rights supersede our own).

It is our great privilege and honor
(it becomes an honor when you willingly sacrifice yourself for him...
not just in time and effort...but if the case presents itself...
you would willingly lay your life down in the protection of his).

With this one thought...honor...
all of the lesser efforts become automatic...
there is no second thought...
the giving of your time to him is a pleasure...
as it is a natural manifestation of parental love.

While this article focused on the great importance of being there for your child...
for his direct cognitive benefit...
by being there for him...
you also form a close bond with your child.

This is where your great parental love for your child forms
( It is the actual bonding which forms the strong love for the child.  
This is why adoptive parents can have just as strong a bond...and love...
for their adopted children...as for biological ones).

When you see all of the greatest attributes in humans in your child...
the great pureness, innocence, and goodness...
you cannot help but have hope for the world...
you cannot help but see the beauty of life in everything around you.

And so, the great positive feedback loop of the bonding of parent and child.

Each derives great benefit from it.

The more each gives...
the greater the rewards for each.







2 comments:

  1. Love the old photos of Alex... he was so adorable!

    The pictures remind me of the experiences I had with my son when he was small... and you're right about the bonding that takes place... priceless!

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  2. Most parents know this...however, some may forget in the day to day operations that makes up life. It is a reminder for parents...and food for thought for parents to be. They have much to prepare for...but much to look forward to.

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