Monday, March 19, 2012

One Of Life's Great Simple Pleasures


Song:  Wyatt's Torch

Group:  Immediate Music



 Just after Alex had completed his writing assignment
(the one described in the previous article)...
I had taken him out to eat at a nearby restaurant.
It is a quaint Casino / Restaurant at the base of the Sierra Nevada Mountains...
and poised at the gateway to the pass that leads to California from Reno.

The restaurant has large picture windows through which 
you may see the mountains.

It was lightly snowing and nearing sunset.
The air was crisp and fresh.

We entered and were seated.

Alex ordered a dish of Tilapia.

I had decided to engorge myself with one of my few vices...
I simply love a good cheese burger
(not too often...maybe a few times a month).

Not just any type mind you...
a flame grilled one
(Is there really any other way to cook one?  :)

The food is good...and the price is very reasonable.
The atmosphere is nice and the view is very beautiful.

Alex busied himself with his iPad and I listened to some
nice music on my iPod.

I was facing the mountains and I was simply entranced by the 
deep blue hue of the mountains below the glowing white of the snow caps.

As the sun set lower...
the mountains got a progressively deeper blue...
 and had finally disappeared from view.

I was alternately looking at the grand view of the mountains...
and at the grand view before me with my son sitting contentedly...
playing with his iPad and then concentrating intently on his Tilapia as he ate it.

I love nature...and I deeply love my son.

What a fortunate man I am, I had thought...
to have such great simple pleasures readily at hand.


I reflected upon my life...
of how grand an adventure it has been
(with more to come)...
of how I have had great fortune in my life...
even though in some ways...
I am a failure.

I need to expand upon this as I have a point to make.


As I have stated before...
to constantly strive toward that which you have a passion for...
to be able to do your life's work using that passion...
make a good living with it...
to help others in the line of your work...
and to love it so much that retirement is not in your plans...
you simply wish to do it until you simply can no longer.

That is to have lived a life filled with passion and creativity.

That is what I hope to have Alex achieve in his life...
unabated and ever growing happiness...
from sunup through sundown.

That is to be successful.

I have failed in this one important respect.

Although I had made my job as enjoyable as I could...
and it had provided me with a good salary 
and a very comfortable and early retirement...
it was not my passion.

I had waited too late to discover my passion and to pursue it
(Although it is not too late to pursue many of my passions.
I shall be engaging in them more in the near future).

I am one of the fools in life that had to learn some valuable life lessons...the hard way.

 This is not to say my life was difficult.  

To say so would be an insult to so many
who are struggling in a hard economic environment.  

It is not to say that I am not ever so grateful for the opportunities
I have been afforded and have taken advantage of.

It is also not to say that I am not fully enjoying life...
that I am...
with much more to come...
and with even greater depth through the chasing of my passions. 

My point is...
 that to have had an even greater life...
I would have had a job that I considered my life's work...
one where I couldn't wait to get to...
one where I loved every minute on the job...
one where I had felt a sense of deep satisfaction at the conclusion of the day...
of only leaving without regret because of even greater passions to pursue off the job...
all the while making important contributions to others...
to improve their lives.

That is to live life fully.


Had I thought even more deeply about the nature of life as a young child...
about reverse planning my life according to my passions...
about how serious study in school would open up so many more doors of opportunity
instead of wasting so many of my opportunities daydreaming in class...
of not doing homework, not engaging in class...
of living in my own world while the real one was passing me by...
I could have had a life that was pure joy...
instead of having one where my job hours were just fun and not a passion.

I now take solace in, not only being able to impress upon my son, Alex...
an even better way of life...but to prepare him for one.

This is what it means to be a parent.

To not only impart wisdom...
but to impart the means of achieving even greater heights
than the heights achieved by us.


Alex is my son...

I am...
 his Atlas...
 his Guardian...
his Protector...
 his Guide...
 his Teacher...
his staunchest supporter...
his Fighter/Intercepter...
his Full Back as he runs for a touch down in life.

His friends are my friends...
his enemies are my mortal enemies.

I am his Father...
and for this...
I am most grateful.

While being a Father is not always simple...
it is definitely one of life's greatest pleasures.


6 comments:

  1. I think being a parent is almost as cool as being a grandparent....

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  2. I can't imagine anything being better...however, I do plan to find out about grandchildren. Perhaps in another 20 or so years. :)

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  3. You may not have had a career that you were passionate about, but you have found it now as Alex's parent, Atlas, Guardian, Protector, etc. I'd say that is most important. Well done!

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  4. And most important it is. It is easy since it is a passion. I shall not fail at this...I shall not have any regrets. This is to be my most enjoyable, as well as, my most important mission.

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  5. I was very moved by your post, as I feel the exact same way about my son. I think I'm viewed by others as too intense, maybe even pushy. I know that I'm not, but it is interesting how others distort the truth because they just can't relate. Anyway, I will be following your posts, as I seek to learn from others' experiences like my own. My son is only 3 yrs old, yet raising him (1 out of 3 boys) has been my biggest challenge in life... and I'm a doctor (I know what hard work and 'delayed gratification' means) if that tells you anything. How do you successfully raise a twice exceptional learner in a way that does not stifle him? No therapist in town can help me...I feel like I'm learning by trial and error. I think I'm doing okay, but I know I can do better. So thanks for your posts...you are helping more than you know!! :)

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  6. Thank you...and welcome. It is always good to hear from other parents who prioritize their children. There is nothing more pure and innocent in this world than our children. I would be extremely proud to know that I had been of any help to others in the furthering of their children's lives.

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