Thursday, October 20, 2011

Home Schooling - Concept Of Regret


Song:  Vincent

Artist:  Don McLean



We, as humans, learn in two basic ways...

Positive Examples

Negative Examples


How we arrive at those examples are varied...
and not the focus of this article.

It is enough to know that they stimulate the two basic drives of humans...

 Pursuit of Pleasure

 Aversion to Pain


Of the two ways of learning...
by positive example is the goal.

 Negative examples are inevitable...
and are often squandered as a learning opportunity...
often shucked and forgotten...
to come back as regret.


The natural result of accumulated regret...
is a depressed outlook in life.

While on one hand...
the feeling of regret means to have a conscience...
to have acknowledged that you have learned from negative experience...

On the other hand...
to feel badly about something that you can no longer directly affect...
can lead to a haunting of your conscience
(if you choose to ignore the situation).


Regret can be a positive drive in life...
or a negative drain of it.

The difference lies in what you do with the pent up feelings.

Regret can be bittersweet.

It is the initial bitterness that forms the drive to either
directly correct the unjust situation...
or to use it to ensure the situation never arises again...
or to at least alter the choice you made when it had arisen.

The sweetness comes with the rectifying of a debt...
the alleviation of a haunting as a result...
and of the conquering of yourself in order to have done that.


Unresolved regret is what causes haunting of the soul (emotions).

It is easier...at first...
to merely push aside the feelings of regret...
of momentarily forgetting them...
and of the associated memories (for fear of triggering the regret).

What you have is a subconscious weight that continues to accumulate
with each successive regretful action.

What you will end up with...
in order to operate as a human being...
is a constant state of unease due to either...
guilt or emptiness.

The guilt is really the unanswered regret.

The emptiness is the lack of good memories...
as they had to also have been discarded with the bad memories...
without which regret could be kept in the subconscious.

Either way leads to a suppression of a general sense of wellbeing.

Many, not acknowledging the real problem...
or, as often is the case, choose to ignore regret as it is easier...
 instead, choose hedonistic diversions to fill the void.

They will have chosen short term pleasures over that of
the deep satisfaction of long term pleasures.

It is also an attempt to forget regret...
instead of truly coming to terms with it by rectifying it.

So long as you are looking Objectively at the true guilt of the offender...
and you have determined it was you...
the regret is yours.


To attempt to forgive yourself without rectifying it...
takes away the drive that which gives you the energy
to complete the task of rectification.

It is merely a blatant attempt to fool yourself.

It is not regret that you wish to get rid of.


It is in the...

 acknowledgement...
correction...
remembrance of it...

 that turns that which was bitter into that which is sweet.

What was once a weight upon your shoulders...
becomes a milestone along your journey.


To have chosen to not forget regret but to rectify it...
is to know that no amount of short term pleasures
can ever add up to that of long term pleasures...
ones that keep giving...and get all the sweeter with time...
is to have been on the side of True Intelligence.

To have corrected a regret is to have been on the side of Justice.

To have acknowledged regret as a learning and growing opportunity...
and to have taken positive action to rectify it, if not by direct action...
then by corrected future action in the wronged's honor...
is to have been on the side of Wisdom.


So long as regret comes not from plan (selfishness)
but happenstance...

to attempt to live life to never do any regrettable actions
is to either live blindly to others (regret will most certainly happen)...
or to strive to never make mistakes or miscalculations...
to never push yourself to fully explore your world...
to never know that which are the actual operational parameters...
to only fly in a bird cage...
instead of all the sky.

It is the conscious decision to be a canary instead of a Tiger (a winged one) ...  :)



That is attempting to not live life...
but to merely exist.

With a preplanned method of dealing with regret...
comes the freedom to be human.

With a preplanned method of dealing with regret...
comes the freedom to fly on the wings of a Tiger.


2 comments:

  1. Shiroi Tora... not just a white tiger, but a winged one... awesome! :)

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