Monday, September 19, 2011

Home Schooling - Concept Of Mission




Song:  To Sir With Love

Artist:  Lulu

From the movie:  To Sir With Love


The impossibility of operating at the highest efficiency and effectiveness...
in any capacity, when it comes to groups of people
(non mission oriented)
lies in divergent views...
and so, the un-unified goals, and the objectives to achieve them.

This leads to a division, and the duplication, of effort...
 of misplaced priorities and of mistimed, or non-coordinated actions.

This comes when the Subjective overcomes the Objective...

when the individual is seen as more important than the Mission...
that which is for the betterment of the whole...
that which is ultimately right for the long term.

It comes about when feelings are considered more important than
doing that which will effect right...
correct actions.

It comes about when individuals come to think that it is the
world's responsibility to adapt to the individual...
instead of the individual adapting to that which would be correct
(most efficiently by working as a team...putting the mission as a priority).

No sports team...
no top company...
no military...
can operate, nearly so effectively...
by prioritizing the individual over the group or mission.


The only questions that need be asked...

if the goal is worthy...
if the mission is necessary to achieve that goal
(is there a lesser way to achieve it?)...
if the result will effect the desired change...
if it is fashioned in the most efficient and effective form.


If these questions can be answered in the affirmative...
then it is the individual who must adapt to the needs of the mission
(ultimate efficiency and effectiveness automatically
imply that a meritocracy apply...the most fair and
progress inducing form of operation).

To think that a company must adapt to the needs of each individual
over the needs of mission accomplishment, hamstrings the company...
which ultimately makes all of the employees at risk of losing
their future employment, as the company is at risk for failure.


So...by this point you must be asking yourself...


What in the world are you talking about, Shiroi?

How does this apply to raising a child?


It all boils down to egocentric thoughts...
which naturally lead to egocentric behavior.

How to prevent a child from becoming egocentric?

First and foremost...
by not having egocentric parents  :)

Although I am joking in delivery...
I am not in context.

It is the child who learns to think objectively...
who naturally thinks in terms of mission first.

It is in the most efficient and effective realization of goals...
by looking at all the variables...
how they interact...
how they affect the outcome...
that the child subjugates his immediate ego satisfaction...
to that of mission completion
(Deferred Gratification).

This places the correct prioritization in life.

To think long term over the short.

For a parent to engender this realization in the child...
starts with the setting of correct limits through structure.


You don't spoil a child by giving unfettered love and affection

(you should always give this freely...you never withhold this...
as this is not a tool with which to manipulate others...
and so...the true meaning of unconditional love).



You spoil a child by the not setting of limits...

by not having structure in his life...
by allowing him to do anything other than good...
by the giving of false praise

(praising mediocre performance instead of showing him...
with love and guidance...
how to do it correctly...
and then giving praise)...

by letting him think that he is the most important person
in the world (unearned)...
instead of letting him know
(through actions as well as words)
that he is the most important person in the world...
to you.


Why not have your child falsely think that he is the best in the world?

Because a person who thinks he is already the best...
no longer has motive to try to improve.

A person who thinks he is inherently better than all others...
not through better actions leading to better results...
but through entitlement
(the essence of Elitism)...
becomes a Tyrant.

A Tyrant can only operate if he has total control
over the fate, and so, the actions of all others.

As your child will not have total control
(nor should he)...
he will end up alienating others...
turning, from the start...
potential allies...
into enemies.

That is not only the beginning of evil over good
(as a method of operation)...
that is the mark of a willfully stupid person.

His life will be marked by frustration...
and he will have effectively become hamstrung
by the very people who should have guided him
onto a correct path in life.

As a former Correctional Officer...
the most common thread I had seen in the
criminal element was one of extreme selfishness...
and an almost total disregard for
Deferred Gratification.


Their whole life revolves around the satisfaction of
their immediate wants...
to the direct detriment of others' needs...
even of their own.

They constantly think, operate...live....
short term gains over the long.


A great way to teach the importance of Mission...
one that had enjoyed widespread use
throughout the school system
(that is no longer used early on)...
is through sports and music programs.


It is through individual reliance upon others
for coordinated efforts
to achieve a goal over the immediate
glorification of an individual that a child
realizes the core of group dynamics.

He learns to work with others...
to subjugate his desire for self over the greater good
of the group.

That is the real value of all group sports...
whether it be...
 Soccer...
Baseball...
Football...

and that of Music...
Orchestra or Band.


The various branches of the Military
live this way of life...
it is impressed extensively...
and any other way is simply not tolerated
(nor should it be).


I have noticed throughout life...
that the ones who had had participated in at least one of these
type of group activities...
had much better work ethics
(in general...of course there are many good people
who had not done any of these things).


Although it is not strictly necessary
to do these activities...
as there are other ways to impress this point...
it is such an effective way of facilitating good parenting...
and a fun way for the child to learn this intuitively...
why forgo it?


Another thought...
higher end companies look for three basic attributes
in its employees...

Work Ethics...
Adaptability...
Being able to work well with others.

Hmmm...
Team sports, music programs, and the military teach all of these.

That is why it is such a plus to employers
to have examples of these in the resumes of their
prospective employees.


One last thought...

To Sir With Love

A great movie depicting the growth of wayward children
under the tutelage of a teacher who had to first
(in effect)
become their parent.

It gives an example of good parenting...
of how to teach others to operate effectively as one in society.

It is a movie of a mission...
the mission of a teacher...
the personal sacrifice made in the
service of others...
and of the impartation of a sense of mission in his students.

Although it was made many decades ago...
the message and methods are timeless.

It was made great by one of only two actors
who, because of their intelligence and class...
could have pulled it off so convincingly...

Sidney Poitier
(the great actor who had portrayed the teacher)

David Niven
(the only other actor who could have done it...
in my not so humble opinion).


This movie should be a must see for all older
 Elementary School students.

Come to think of it...
it is now the correct time in Alex's life to see it.

Hmmm...
tonight seems to be open...




2 comments:

  1. I saw To Sir, With Love when I was about Alex's age and loved it. I don't remember the details of the story anymore, but you've made me want to see it again, and to see it in the context of the thoughts you mention here.

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  2. Yes...it is an excellent movie. I have the DVD and Alex and I are going to watch it together...tonight after dinner. Afterward...we are going to discuss the events portrayed in the movie...everything from perceived motives to incorrect and correct actions...as well as possible alternatives. I am looking forward to it.

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