Saturday, March 12, 2011

Home Schooling - Concept Of Forgiveness



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The Concept Of Forgiveness...

 involves the ability to discern intent
by knowing how to critically reason.


Intent...

 tells of the trueness of past
actions or inactions
as well as the probability
of re-occurance.


Critical Reasoning...

 involves knowing which variables 
were available to the offender
at the time that his decision was made.

If not enough information was available...
or if the information was incorrect...
his conclusion may very well have been 
incorrect...
rendering it as an innocent mistake...
therefore making it something
that needs no forgiveness.

Had the necessary correct information
 been available...
that would have been no simple "mistake"...
and so, regardless of their pleading to the contrary...
an act of conscious intent.

This is an act, or omission of necessary action...
that the offender would have to rectify...
to EARN his forgiveness.

Regardless of the offender's "innocent" miscalculation...
the real question is one of whether he should have known.

If the answer is yes...
he is responsible.

Just as in an apology...
the offender needs to rectify the situation by:


Acknowledging his fault...

Laying out his plan to correct the fault
(both...to correct the present and all future situations)...


Making it up with interest
(not just curing the ill...but making it better)...


Apologizing sincerely and...
this is important...
NOT extending his hand first
(this is... in essence...demanding forgiveness)

It is the aggrieved's prerogative to extend his
hand in forgiveness...
his honor.


Should the aggrieved feel that not enough was done...
and enough was done...
he would be wrong.

All that the offender can do, at that point, is to move on...
nothing more need be done.


Are all things forgivable?

The real question then becomes...
can all matters be rectified?

Of course not.

Now, when it comes to parents
and their children...

I say...
no matter what...
our love is unconditional
(no preset conditions to our loving them).

Does this mean to always forgive them?

Yes, however...
 it is up to us to guide them to corrective actions.

They must still earn their forgiveness...
not our love.

This involves teaching them what earning their forgiveness
is all about.


When the Concept Of Forgiveness is learned...
they will also know how to forgive others.


The anger over a mistake by others...
will then be seen by them...
as an invalid emotion...
the anger will, in the future, no longer emerge.

The anger over the malfeasance or carelessness
of others can be looked upon as 
correct righteous anger...
one which should lead
the aggrieved to then demand
the other earn his forgiveness...
should, after a correct period of time...
it had not been self initiated by the offender.


Should the offender not take corrective action...
and there is no other recourse...
the aggrieved may then mark it down
as a lesson in human behavior learned...
without regret...
without guilt.


Should the child always forgive 
the unearned forgiveness...
or unforgivable in others?

NO.
(although it doesn't mean he should always have
unresolved anger within - it just means with 
anger fueling a corrective action on his
part to ensure a vulnerability of his
is fortified to withstand future assaults ...
his justified anger will then have dissipated via 
a positive outlet...and a future strength).

It is when something could have been done by the aggrieved...
and not...that anger resides within.

This will serve notice to him to be more 
conservative, in similar situations...
as to not present himself as a target...
one who can be seen as a victim.

This serves as a drive for him to become stronger...

Intellectually
Emotionally
Physically


Once this is done...
the aggrieved can then forgive himself.





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