Monday, February 7, 2011

Home Schooling - Dealing With Grief


To Zanarken - Final Fantasy X

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Grief should never be visited upon any child...
it is, however, so often out of our control.

Be it a parent, friend, or pet... a child feels,
especially acutely, these emotions as they
are new to them...
their hearts are pure and innocent.

I shall not go into the well known psychological
ladder (steps) of grief.

It is enough to know that 
so long as a person does well by the person lost
before loss occurs...
his sorrow is limited to missing them...
and not the gnawing guilt reserved for those 
whom had maltreated or had left unfinished 
tasks or desires...
without making the effort necessary 
for a meeting of the minds beforehand.

That is why it is so important to give of yourself to those
whom are of great importance to you...
to speak your heart and mind to them...
in the here and now...
before loss is suffered.

It is important to you
and to the persons whom were loved.

Anything left undone...
anything left unsaid...
anything left uncorrected...
anything left unrectified...
any love not expressed...
any friendship not given...
is a weight added to the spirit (emotions).

With too much weight (guilt)...
no matter the strength of your wings...
your spirit will be unable to fly.

While lost love or friendship
has hope of repair...
loss through death is permanent.

A child experiences this, normally, through
the loss of a pet.

So long as they had treated the pet well...
given it much love and care...
death can be looked upon as a natural occurrence.

The person or pet can then be thought of as fortunate
as they had gone through life with the love rendered
by their loved ones without having suffered
abuse or neglect and so... had a good death.

The most efficient and effective 
handling of grief is, therefore,
handled before death.

Teach them to be giving in their
Love...
Friendship...
Of their time...
Of themselves...

It is as much for them as for those 
around them.

Should the child suffer from deserved guilt...
all is not lost...
let them know the lesson involved...
how they can honor the loss of the loved one
by allowing it to alter their future behavior...
to make sure they treat all future loves appropriately...
in their memory.

By allowing the pain of guilt to alter them...
they can lessen their guilt with each act of goodness.

With enough correct actions
(they will know...when the guilt lifts),
they will have earned absolution.

They will have then...
 defeated grief.

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