Thursday, December 30, 2010

Home Schooling - Concepts Of Good / Right / Duty / Honor / Courage / Love



Video Montage From FF 7 (Movie) - Advent Children (Square Enix)
Music - Remake of Requiem Of A Dream (Lux Aeterna)
Original Composer: Clint Mansell
Video Music: Requiem Of A Tower 
(From Trailer to LOTR: The Two Towers)
Composed by: Clint Mansell / Veigar Margeirsson / 
Simone Benyacar / Craig Stuart Garfinkle / Dan Nielsen
Performed by:  Sons of Sin Orchestra, Northwest Chapter



I shall attempt to define...
the concepts of...
Good and Evil...
and of...
Right and Wrong.

Not from...
a religious stand point...
as I am not religious...
and, as it would be invalid...
as not everyone is religious...
or even of the same religion...
as a religious more...
is a value...
a shared belief of standards...
as applied to a sub-group of humankind
(as in nations).

Not from a political...
or even from a subjective standpoint...
as a moral must apply universally...
and must be valid objectively...
if it is to be a moral...
if it is to have any value...
for all beings.


But through a basic moral.


The Concept of
Good and Evil...
being the essence of...
and so central to...
the even more important concept of
Right and Wrong...
is of high value...
as it is the knowledge of its existence...
and its definition...
which leads our actions to that which is...
Right and Wrong.

Good and Evil...
and...
Right and Wrong
are not necessarily synonymous.

Good and Evil exist 
because of our intelligence.
Our capability to formulate...
and to discern...
Intent.

It is because of our free will...
as a result of this intelligence...
that allows us to
choose a course of action...
or in-action...
(Right or Wrong)
that would...
in a foreseeable outcome...
RESULT in...
( being borne of the purposeful decision to be...)
Right or Wrong.


Simply put...
it is a matter of
having the virgin Rights...
and of achieving those Rights.


The Right to Exist...

in a manner consistent
with achieving the full potential of that existence...
(in a manner consistent with one's contribution's value -
through one's applied intelligence and effort...
and with the full rights to the fruits of one's labor)
so long as one doesn't
take away others'
rights to fully
Exist.


The Right to Not Exist...

so long as the decision
is borne of sound rationale...
and doesn't take away
others' rights to
Exist.

Realizing these Rights...
and being fully committed to implementing them is...
Good.

Formulating the plan of action...
to achieve all that is good is...
Right.

The antithesis of
Good and Right is...
Evil and Wrong.

With the realization of
Good and Right comes...
Duty.

The Duty to not only
carry out the implementation of Good...
but the...
Protection and Preservation of it...
for all of whom are of Good.

The completed actions of one's Duty...
in the face of great opposition...
and where there is the known probability of great loss is...
Courage.


A man ( or woman )
who lives by these attributes...
as demonstrated by his
actions in the face of Duty...
and by his in-actions in the face of temptation...
is a man of Honor.


A man of Honor demonstrates great Loyalty
to his friends and family...
to Goodness.

Truly great Love (and friendship)
comes only through the putting of the others' welfare
before one's own.

It is reciprocated by each by not asking
that of the other.

Only through this...
 can a truly giving relationship be.

This is where people are of like minds...

and so...are what is commonly referred to as...
Soul Mates.


To find Great Love...
one must be worthy of it.

It is not enough to merely understand the concepts...
one must live them.

In order to live them...
one must be prepared...
to defend those around him...
against those who choose to take from others.

In order to protect others...
one must be able to protect one's self.

The right to self protection...
and to the protection of
friends and family...
is an absolute...
an unassailable...
Right.

The protection of all whom are of Good...
against attack by
all those whom are of Evil...
is a Duty.


Never give in to the moral relativists
who espouse that War is Evil.

It is aggressive Evil persons
who make war necessary...
in order for Good persons to protect
these fundamental human rights.

Some idiotically espouse
that all violence is Evil.

It is the Evil persons...
and the willfully stupid ones
who mindlessly follow the
Evil acts...
that make violence necessary
in order to protect and preserve
those whom are of Good.

Otherwise...

Evil would win by default.

It is their goal...to win through intimidation...no action necessary.
It is frequently used by those of whom are Evil...
only because so many
otherwise Good people...
through cowardice...
do and say nothing.


Aggression is Evil

Assertiveness is not only Good...

It is a sacred Duty.



Aggression...
is the taking or trampling of others' rights.
It is the perpetration and perpetuation of Evil.


Assertiveness...
is the protection of one's rights.
It is the embodiment and perpetuation of all that is Good.
It is the sword and shield of Justice.


Pacifism in the face of Evil is cowardice
(The putting of one's self before all others).

It is not enough to merely do or say no Evil in life.

That is only half the equation.

One must...
see it...
hear it...
to prepare one's self in life...
to be able to do something about it.

This is to be a man
(or woman).


A man defines himself through his actions
in the face of duty...
and by...
his in-actions in the face of temptation...
day by day...
moment by moment.

It is an inescapable truth and obligation
that defines the threshold
of merely being a male...
and that of being a man.


It is only through this
that true Honor can be achieved...
and so...
true Love and Friendship...
realized.


 

Friday, December 24, 2010

A Supplementary Method of Teaching - Love / Friendship / Courage / Honor


Final Fantasy VIII Video Game Introduction - (1999) Square

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To hear the music and to get a partial view...
click on the video.

To get a full view of it...
click on the video once again...
once it has started.

A new page will open at YouTube.

To get a full screen view...
Click on the four arrow pointing to...
the four corners of a square icon...
at the bottom right of the video.
_________________________________________________

One of the most powerful and commonly used methods...
of influencing human behavior...
one that had its roots...
in applied Psychology...
as used infamously...
even...nefariously...
by the Tobacco and Alcohol Industries...
in conjunction with the Movie Industry...

(The movie stars were made to smoke and drink in the movies...
especially in...
  climactic or heroic scenes...
by the studios...
who were heavily compensated by...
their "sponsors")

so many decades ago...
utilizing the Psychological concept of...
Modeling.


In a very simple explanation...

Monkey see...Monkey do


It is the most natural way of learning.

The mind automatically sees correlations...
and attempts to establish causations...
to allow the observer to not only...
know how to do it...
but when to...
in order for observer to be like...
the observed.

(Hero does x to get z....
 Hmm...
I do x to get z...)

The evil comes in the added non-causual variables.

The direct and planned...
implications used by the T & A Industries...
(and yes...using T & A to achieve their means :)  ...
showing all of the cool...
heroic...
woman and resource getting
super males
(they did the same for females too)
smoking and drinking...
it was part of the designed winning formula
to model oneself after.

I included this explanation not to denounce modeling...
as an evil or incorrect way of learning...
I did it to show its efficacy.

It is, indeed, a very powerful way to influence people.

A very successful way of motivating people...
is through a demonstratively successful...
means of achievement...
as shown through a hero...
or a set of heros...
all set...
to beautiful scenery...
an engaging story line...
and greatly stirring...
and emotionally charged...
music.

A highly choreographed...
sensual...
visual and aural assault...
designed to pluck the heart strings...
and to stir the soul... 
to turn an otherwise mere story...
into an epic saga.

One that is not merely remembered...
but one that can fundamentally change...
a person's outlook on life.


Before I say...
the greatly disturbing words...
to many parents...
whom are concerned...
with the structured learning...
of their children...
using traditional means of acquiring
morals...


Just as modeling can be utilized for evil purposes...

It can be utilized for great good.



The difference is in the purity of the message...
not in the medium.

Now...
the words...

Video Games


Just as one can choose
morally pure
books and movies...


One can choose
well or poorly
with...
Video Games...
and the movies based upon them.

The beauty of
 great video games...
lay in the...
40 to 100+ hrs.
of reinforcement of desirable morals...
all with the rapt attention of the child.

I have been a great fan of the Final Fantasy series
(from Square Enix)
since...
FFIII (U.S.) for the Super Nintendo
(and now on Playstation).

I've greatly enjoyed the whole series from FFIII - FFX.
Each stresses the great strength inherent in cooperative
human interaction as demonstrated by the characters...

Great and Pure...
Love...
Loyalty and the resulting Friendships...
Courage...
Honor

The child is not only watching...
but actively participating.

He becomes the heros...
and he is Positively Reinforced...
by growing more abilities...
and advancing in the game...
unlocking mysteries...
defeating evil...
all the while being treated to great...
scenes...
story lines...
music.

This is especially true in the later games...
VIII and on...
as computer graphics greatly improved
(as evidenced in the above FF VIII intro from the game).

A Playstation is a specially designed
and specifically task designated computer.

Both the Playstation 2 and 3 are
backwards compatible
(They will play the previous Playstation games...
PS 2 will play PS2 and PS1 games-
PS3 will play PS3, PS2 and PS1 games)

Get the Playstation 3 if you can...
it is also a
Blue Ray DVD player.

It also doesn't need game memory cards
as it has its own hard drive.


No...

I make no money off of this Blog or from any
of my recommendations or links.

I've done it specifically to keep my information
pure in perceived motive.

The games are especially cheap now days...
as they have been on the market for so long.

Has FF II and FF III


Has FF IV and Chrono Trigger (a different series - but a good one)


FF VII

FF VIII (the YouTube video is from this game)


FF IX


FFX

As they are so inexpensive...
why not get them all?

You may also get the MYST series on Playstation now.
(originally a PC game)

They are very good for developing problem solving skills
as they are filled with many different puzzles in the game...
while the graphics and music are enchanting.

This series is a different type of game...
it is first person perspective (through the players eyes)...
non-linear in game play (free roving)
and non-cooperative in nature (must do things on own).

MYST 
the one that started it all


RIVEN
The sequel to MYST


EXILE
The sequel to RIVEN


Please don't get turned off by the "Violence" in the YouTube video...

Violence...
is not inherently evil...
it all depends upon...
its intent...
the purpose of the particular course of action...
(using the lowest level of force necessary to effect the change)...
its result.


To protect one's self...
one's family and friends...
the innocent...
from the guilty...
is an exercise in...
Good against Evil.

I shall go more into this concept
in my next article.

There is no Great Honor...
without the possibility...
of Great Sacrifice.

No Great Love...
without the possibility...
of great loss.

No Great Friendship...
without ...
Great Loyalty...
and the...
Great Courage necessary...
to defend it.

These great concepts...
can be thoroughly
Demonstrated...
Reinforced...
Actively Participated in...

Through Great Video Games

Great lessons learned...
with the
COMPLETE ATTENTION
of your child...

This much I guarantee

(A great motivator to complete tasks ahead of time)

Thursday, December 23, 2010

Perseverance - The Keystone Of Success



Asturias (Leyenda) - performed by XueFei Yang

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To hear the music and to get a partial view...
click on the video.

To get a full view of it...
click on the video once again...
once it has started.

A new page will open at YouTube.

To get a full screen view...
Click on the four arrow pointing to...
the four corners of a square icon...
at the bottom right of the video.
_________________________________________________


Perseverance...
is the steadfast adhering to a course of action...
despite difficulties in order to achieve a goal
(Never giving up...when the path is a correct one).

Not to be confused with...
Obstinance...
Stubornness...
Bullheadedness.
(Knowingly on the wrong path...yet remaining unyielding)


While perseverance...
is a natural derivation of passion...
(The path which one is passionate about...
is walked repetitiously...out of pleasure)

...it need not be.  

While perseverance borne of passion
is of the highest form...
and usually produces the greatest achievers...
as it is a drive from within...
any channeled drive can induce perseverance.


Some people see a goal as a way to achieve
external rewards...
or to achieve freedom...
from unpleasantness or pain.

All are powerful motivators that feed the drives.

Once results are seen...
many externally rewarded people...
come to see the internal rewards of their perseverance.

I have found the most...
efficient and effective...
means of inducing perseverance in my son...
where there is no particular inherent passion...
in a particular area of study... 
is to tie it in to his inherent love of learning...
of achieving goals through...
carefully mapped out...
and easily obtainable...
objectives.


He initially was not so enthusiastic...
about physical training.


As described in my article on Strength Training...

I had lain out a program...
delineating precise steps...
on easily attained...
objectives...
as a part of...
an overall growth...
goal.


With a master plan...
laid out before him...
and with the steps...
necessary to achieve it...
he could measure his progress...
every time he did it.


It is these small victories that make the journey...
so pleasurable
(success breeds success).

While it is these victories...
that drive him now...
he will soon come to have a passion...
for the exercises themselves...
once he experiences the biochemical
(mood elevating and body calming),
kinesthetic and ancillary rewards
derived from the physical pursuits.


At the risk of repeating myself...
into obnoxiousness...


it all relies on giving your child...
the LOVE of learning...
through Positive Reinforcement.


It is this basic drive that will serve him...
throughout life...
which gives him the...
primordial passion...
to excel through...
perseverance.



Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Passion - A Deep Seated Strength


Nights In White Satin - Sung by
Mario Frangoulis / Justin Hayward
Originally composed by Justin Hayward
Originally played by The Moody Blues


Just as the amount of passion displayed in this video...
a spectrum child often feels the same
with things important to him.

Many children on the Autistic Spectrum...
particularly those children with Asperger's
feel very deeply...
very passionately...
although they often simply don't show it.

As many of their senses are heightened...
often to their detriment...
as normal sounds or events
are sometimes magnified to obscene levels in their minds.

However...
often times they also feel very passionately
about things that are normally overlooked.

Music and colors are often felt to the soul.
It transports them to a place of peace...
a place so fascinating...
so mesmerizing...
that they lose all sense of time.

So often, a spectrum child
will listen to the same song...
for hours at a time...
100 times in a row is not unusual.

Repetitive motions or tasks are soothing.

They simply love to concentrate on one thing fully...
allowing it to be all encompassing.
They become absorbed in the task at hand with a passion.

To be transfixed by colors...
especially translucent and luminescent ones...
is a joyous journey into his world of perfection.

His world can be a place of great comfort.
A place where just the right kind and amount of stimuli is applied by his mind.

The great orchestras of the mind...
soothing his soul...
as the movie of his mind
plays out his favorite made up scenes...
the feeling of the crispness of the air...
the crystal clarity of his senses heightened...
all without over-stimulation.


While this is often done by most people...
a spectrum child feels it to such a great degree
that he often shuts out external stimuli.


Issues they feel strongly about are
often so upsetting to them if 
others don't see it the same way they do.


They often are looking deeply into the issue.
They are seeing the principle behind the issue.
They see how it would affect all others should the principle be applied widely.


Frequently, in their minds, they don't understand the need for moderation.
They wish to devote themselves, heart and soul, to the task at hand.


They have an on and off switch...
with no dimmer.


 It applies to their passion...
and to their intellect.


They wish to go all out or not at all.


 An action is either correct...
 which should be applied to all...
in all cases...
with no exceptions....
or it is incorrect...
and should never be used.


While many accept a learned lesson for what it is...
many on the spectrum...
are looking for the supreme underlying principle
so they may apply it universally.


While I agree that this is the correct way of thinking...
many times throughout life...
lessons are given piecemeal.
They are not tied to principles..
no real founding concepts.


This is what is so profoundly upsetting...
to many on the spectrum.


We are careful to give full explanations...
tying it in to the overall picture...
so he may understand the underlying concepts.


With this fundamental understanding...
his mind takes off...
makes great leaps as he applies it to
many other connected circumstances.


When a small perceived injustice occurs...
many react with a simple shrug...
thinking it is nothing.


With spectrum children...
it is not so much the issue at hand...
that which many just look at...
it is the issue of good against evil.
That any slight at all...
is flat out wrong.


It becomes an issue of Justice and Correctness.


An analogy can be applied to the song above...
while many listen to music...
and like it...


Many on the spectrum...
are in front of a great audience...
great orchestras are playing in their minds...
they feel the beats in their souls...
it places them on a roller coaster...
with the accompanying...
associated vertigo...
the colors of the lights...
they feel...and taste...
they sing with the passion of the singer...
in the above video...
(in their minds)
completely oblivious to the audience...
not concerned with their performance...
they are transported...
to their special place.
The more they play the song...
the longer the ride...
and so...
they can play the same song...
over and over.

They aren't merely listening to the music...
but are fully experiencing it in the movie of the mind.


They often feel other seemingly trivial events or stimuli in the same manner.

 They are often living life on the
physical stimuli threshold and emotional edge...
and so they can be pushed over with over stimulation...
far more easily than others.


It is because of this that they can feel so deeply...
so passionately....
and so...can be so disturbed
by disruptions to the order of things...
or events.


However...this can be their great strength.


This passion is an elixir of life.

The passion is not the attribute to be extinguished...
just the incorrect manifestations of it.


I often tell Alex after a "passionate" outburst over
 a seemingly minor issue or stimuli...
that a man's mind is his own...
(he has a right to feel that way)
however...
it is a man's actions or in-actions that the world is concerned with.


I don't try to tell him not to feel passionately...
I merely let him know that his response to it was inappropriate.


He had been taught a very good outlet during ABA therapy.
He would often type a whole multi-paged story
about the object of his passion.


My wife once had killed a fly in the house
(many years ago).
Alex got upset.
He ended up writing a whole story on it...
only with a happy ending...
thereby giving his sense of justice some peace.

It worked....
my wife hasn't killed a fly in the house in front of him since :)

Too many people don't feel passionately enough about things.


Passion is good...
it is a fuel for change.

By guiding that passion towards academics using Positive Reinforcement...
he will be rewarded internally for something that
shall reward him later in life materially.


To try to dampen his enthusiasm
is to try to invalidate his passion
for something he feels deeply about.


I think it is better to guide him toward a positive outlet.


To pursue something with the passion
and intensity of the obsessed can become a great strength...
if appropriately directed.


Telling someone to calm down...
does nothing.


Showing him coping strategies...
(physical - open hands and concentration on breathing)
or a redirection to a positive outlet...
does.


Look for a way he can creatively correct the perceived wrong constructively.


Greatly praise him when he takes the correct steps toward problem resolution.


He can then keep the fires of his passions lit...
and use it to propel him to great heights.

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

One Voice - Concentration On Strengths



Song:  One Voice

Artist:  Barry Manilow


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Just one voice
singing in the darkness
All it takes is one voice
singing so they hear what's on your mind
and when you look around you'll find
there's more than...
One Voice...
singing in the darkness
joining with your one voice
each and every note another octave 
hands are joined and fears unlocked
there's only one voice
which started on its own
We need just one voice
the unknown
and then that one voice
would never be alone
it takes that one voice...
It needs that one voice
just one voice
singing in the darkness
all it takes is one voice...
shout it out and let it ring...
just one voice
it takes that one voice
and everyone will sing...
SING

Lyrics - Barry Manilow

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I speak not only from experience with my son, Alex...
who is on the Autistic Spectrum (Asperger's)...
but from direct personal experience.

Although I have none of my son's great intellectual attributes...
(I am neither especially intelligent nor am I highly educated)
my neurological deficits manifested themselves in even 
more extremes.  

During my youth ...
my life was filled with Obsessive Compulsive behaviors
which forced me to have to turn in complete circles...
whenever I turned a corner...

to have to unwind an
object that I perceived had been wound 
(as a monopoly piece gets "wound"
on the board as it makes its way around to "go")

I had numerous verbal and physical tics...
which I had to change from one to another to hide them.

Tags on clothing drove me nuts...
I had to rip all of them out.

I daydreamed constantly...
which led to "forgetfulness" 
(not paying attention in the first place)

My grades in school were atrocious.
I was constantly in my own world.

What I had done starting at a young age...
that had eventually changed my life...
was I had discovered a very positive outlet.

I started some very rigorous skill/stamina/endurance training.
I have continued it...and I had later incorporated strength training.

My neurological deficits began to melt away almost immediately.
I went on to excel in the physical arena.

I had found a positive passion in life.

I went from being on a Negative Spiral
to being on a Positive Spiral...
by concentrating on my strengths.

Through those developed strengths...
I could face anything that life had thrown me.
I have never really known the depths of depression.


Children in the Autistic Spectrum often feel isolated...
many suffer from depression later in life...
as a result of perceived social ostracization.
(Not to say that all depression is Psychologically based - 
often times it is Physiological...an imbalance of their
neurochemistry)


Many spectrum children learn to feel as if they are strange...
because they think differently.

They often feel misunderstood
due to their inability to judge others minds
through their actions and facial expressions.

Let them know...
so long as their hearts are pure
and their actions reflect that pureness...
doing what is good...moral...right...
others of like minds shall eventually see
who they truly are.

Their small oddities will come to be just another 
facet of a very unique child.

Always strive to guide your child through Positive Reinforcement
toward correctness...
(Obsessive Compulsive behaviors without purpose...
illogical tantrums..etc)
by redirecting them toward a good way to express their frustration
and obsessions.

To be Obsessed with Correctness and Justice...
(A typical trait among Asperger's children...as so with Alex)
can be a good thing if guided in a positive direction.

Many parents of spectrum children attempt to "Normalize"
their children...not wanting them to stand out in society.

I say...
turn their perceived deficits into their strengths.

Many children on the spectrum have a very focused mind...
they tend to focus all of their attention on an interest.
By guiding them toward Academics...Music...
Sports...all of the positive outlets...
they can excel.

Their single mindedness can be turned into a great strength in life.

They will be accepted by the others who have progressive minds...
the ones who value goodness and other positive attributes.

They will not only NOT be alone...
they will be highly thought of as their attributes manifest themselves
as strengths.

I am not living in an ivory tower...
I realize that children will attempt to bully
others who are looked upon as different.
Some utilize sabotage and aggression in order
to force a shutdown of achievers...
to get them to even hate themselves for being different.

Alex had gone through some when he attended school.
He had not buckled to it because he realized their goal
(with a little explanation from us).

He also had the opposite reactions from many children...
most children admired his academic successes
and accepted his minor quirks.

He has learned to love to stand out among others...
not through cheap theatrics...
  by merely changing the outside
(The in-crowd clothes/hair/gestures)
which would merely drain his desire to change on the inside...
but by striving for excellence...
being truly different...
in a positive way.

Many children fear standing out in the group
because of pressure from the group
as well as self imposed pressure
to measure up to higher standards.

To want to be normal is to strive for average.

Have your child strive to be that...

One Voice...

an innovator...
a creator...
a leader...
a teacher.


To do so means...
 not following the crowd...
not being the same...
not fearing venturing forth...
to dream...
to realize his dreams
by concentrating on his strengths.

Through his strengths...
he shall be able to overcome his deficits...
and he shall be able to lead others to do the same.




Sunday, December 19, 2010

Home Schooling - Concept Of Happiness





 Yuki Saori


Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs...
As synopsized from:



Many decades ago...
a theory developed by Ph.D Psychologist Abraham Maslow...
eventually referred to as Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs...
put forth the prioritized needs of humans in order
to achieve true happiness in life.


Briefly...

Step 1 - Physiological Needs

The basics of survival...
Air...Food...Water...Shelter 
in clean and plentiful supply.



Step 2 - Security Needs

The absence of fear from harm.



Step 3 - Belonging / Love Needs

The need to feel loved and accepted as part of a group.



Step 4 - Esteem Needs

Recognition / Respect / Achievement / Competence / Approval

With each achievement he realizes self confidence...
and so...true self esteem.



Step 5 - True Conceptual Understanding

Learning / Understanding / Exploring

The esteem of others is now not the basic drive...
he wants to know the fundamental understanding of his world...
the how and whys.



Step 6 - Aesthetic Needs

Symmetry / Order / Beauty

The discovery of Passion in his interests...
and the beauty of it as it applies to his life.



Step 7 - Self Actualization Needs

Self Fulfillment / Realizing One's Potential

Reaching a pinnacle in ones passion.
The Innovator that creates something of great importance...
The Scientist who puts forth a great theorem...
A musician who creates great music...
A Writer who puts out a great novel.


Step 8 - Self Transcendence Needs

The highest order of happiness...
The need to benefit others / all of humankind


We in the industrialized world need not be concerned with the first two levels
as there is usually plentiful amounts of what is needed...
and rarely are there others ready to take them away.

We generally know nothing about basic survival deprivations...
such as many others in the world who must constantly worry about the first two levels.

Levels 3 and 4 are also easily gotten here for anyone...
merely wishing to try...by not giving up.

It is merely realized more quickly
with more quantity of quality repetition.
The knowledge gained sets the stage for level 5.

By concentrating on level 5 - True Conceptual Understanding...
one may eventually reach level 8...
the only variables are time and imagination.

It is through Conceptual Mastery in one's discipline that leads to excellence.

Aesthetics is realized in the beauty of simplicity in one's art
(with Conceptual Mastery..it becomes art as you may then think creatively).


Self Actualization...
while not a foregone conclusion...
should the child hunt for challenges...
and look to constantly extend his limits...
just the pursuing of his passions...
and the knowledge that through his creative efforts...
a breakthrough is just around the corner...
these alone...
lead to great happiness.

The key is all through...
Conceptual Understanding.

Strive to conceptualize all of your child's subjects.

Give him the governing rules...
the fundamental building blocks...
so he may figure out for himself...
all types of similar problems in that discipline in the future.

To truly understand is to be able to simplify...
rearrange...
discover...
create.

True understanding of one's discipline
allows one to teach it in the most efficient and effective form.

Through Conceptual Mastery...

he may give to others through teaching...
writing....explaining...
helping others..

It is through giving to humankind...
a great new...
more efficient and effective way...
to achieve new heights...
that drives many a man...
as this is his only way to achieve...
immortality.

By ensuring your child has plentiful amounts of healthful foods...

a comfortable home...
free from undue noise and stress...
plentiful exercise and sleep...
an adult to ensure good study habits...
and to conceptualize his subjects...
to protect him from all negative influences... 
as well as helping him map out his future...
so the journey becomes his...
and by supporting him with...
bountiful amounts of...

Love...
Affection...
Positive Reinforcement...

he will then be able to set his sights...
as high as his passions will take him.

You will have then given him all he needs to achieve the greatest happiness
a man can achieve...
until he may pass on this knowledge...
to children of his own...
whereupon...

his happiness will multiply.


















Home Schooling - Concept Of Patience


City of Autumn Leaves - Yuki Saori



A short description of three famous Warlords of medieval Japan
vying for the Unification of Japan...
(in Japan...the surnames come first)


Oda Nobunaga 

He ruled with an iron fist and relied upon
Negative Reinforcement and Punishment to rule.
He had unified most...but not all of Japan.


Toyotomi Hideyoshi

One of Oda Nobunaga's Generals
he gained power after Oda Nobunaga was assassinated
by eventually defeating Oda Nobunaga's successor.
He was a man of action...but without enough patience.
During his military campaigns...he tried to force openings...
without thinking of the possibility of failure and planning 
contingencies in the event of failure.
He had tried to invade China without first uniting Japan.
He failed in Korea.


Tokugawa Ieyasu

A warlord of great patience.
He defeated Toyotomi Hideyoshi
by securing strategic areas ahead of time...
by waiting until success was more assured...
before striking.
He awarded land and privileges to 
his supporters.
He utilized Positive Reinforcement.
He was the great unifier of Japan.
He became the Shogun.


A famous saying depicting the personalities
of the three Japanese Warlords.


A Cuckoo that did not sing for each...
and their way of dealing with it.


Oda Nobunaga:
If the Cuckoo doesn't sing...
I'll kill it.

Toyotomi Hideyoshi:
If the Cuckoo doesn't sing...
I'll make it sing.

Tokugawa Ieyasu:
If the Cuckoo doesn't sing...
I'll wait for it to sing.

Tokugawa Ieyasu's Shogunate rule
extended for almost 200 hundred years.

The concept of Patience is a difficult one to learn...
if one doesn't develop forward thinking.

The ability to see the correct path is determined by
the ability to see the desired destination clearly.
It then becomes a matter of reverse engineering
to where one stands at the present.

It then becomes a matter of adequately preparing
one's self and watching for the right time to act...
to effect the greatest change.

It does no good to merely wait.
One has to prepare for the time to act...
constantly.

Patience
is knowing that the time will come...
and so...the drive to succeed
will remain undiminished.

To have un-channeled drive
leads to frustration...
and so...
to giving up.

Life is a marathon...
not a sprint.

There will be setbacks...
and disappointments.

To fail sometimes...
is inevitable.

To give up...
is to fail every time...
forever.

To never give up...
is to eventually win.

Alex has a dream to become a
Math Professor...
Research Scientist...
Inventor...
Writer.

He wishes to help others
through his work.

He knows that for him to be able to
fulfill his dreams...
he must master the fundamental concepts.

He knows that it will be many years of unrelenting effort...
however, he also realizes that effort in life is front loaded.
His most trying years are his school years.
He will have to learn so much
about so many things.

After, and only after, he masters the basics
can he think more creatively...
and so...enjoy his work.

Once he gets into the work force...
he will start reaping the rewards
of his efforts.

With the base of his pyramid built wide
and sturdy...
all of life may rest upon it.

This is being on a Positive Spiral.
Life becomes sweeter
the more you age...
and the higher up you go.

With this in mind...
one can not only look forward to life...
one can be driven by passions...
so even the preparation is enjoyable.

With a clear vision of what one
wishes to become...
and with the knowledge of the steps
needed to get there
in the most efficient and effective manner...
patience becomes a foregone conclusion.

Patience is not so much a lesson learned...
but the knowledge that with proper preparation...
success follows.

Patience is a realization of the inevitable.



Saturday, December 18, 2010

Home Schooling - Concept Of Sharing


Dawn Scat -Yuki Saori  

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My mother used to love to listen to Japanese Folk and Popular music.
This is one of my favorite songs from this artist.
She was one of the most popular artists in Japan in the late 1960s.
In my earlier years...
I was raised on this type of music (as well as Classical and Easy Listening).

Although this song really has nothing to do...
with the topic of sharing.
I thought it would be nice to listen to...
while I shared my thoughts with you.

The concept of sharing has become twisted...
to mean that it is a requirement.

To have to share is to never have had...
anything to share in the first place...as it was never yours.
The very nature of HAVING (vs. wanting) to share...
is socialistic in nature.

It takes all the goodness out of the act of sharing...
as it becomes an expectation...
and worse...
it takes away the sanctity of personal property.

Children grow up to not respect the property of others...
as they see all property as theirs.

There is no concept of sharing...
as a way of personal bonding with others...
as a way of effectively increasing...
the available resources to all...
and as a way to be thought of as...
being a valued member of the group.

I have seen, throughout life, the disrespectful acts of some...
when it comes to the personal property of others.
They consistently acted as those children, I had seen...
as a child, whom were raised with the notion...
that everyone must share.
They thought nothing of just taking...
whatever they wished from others...
whenever they wished...
and all without a thank you...
and without reciprocation.


The sanctity of personal property was never instilled...
because of this misplaced value.

Without the notion of personal property...
being an extension of the self...
there is no concept...
of respect for others or their things.
When they feel that it is a societal given that others must share...
the thought of thanking and reciprocating the act...
does not come into mind since it was not...
an honorable act on the others part.

The person who thinks this way is taught to be selfish...
as they see this as a way to get ahead of others.
By hiding their resources...
they may take from others without using up theirs.
They look upon this as a way to be smart...
rather than see it as a dishonorable act.

Alex was raised to value the property of others...
by being able to see his property as sacred.
While we encouraged his cooperation in the sharing...
of his things with others...
he didn't HAVE to (and so others needn't share with him).
We did, however, teach him the value of cooperative play...
as a way to extend a friendly hand to others whom are without...
to use it as a way to build friendship and trust...
and on the practical aspect...
as a perfectly logical way to...
vastly increase the usable resources for all involved.

When a child thinks this way...
the true joy of sharing becomes possible.
His property then has value...
and so...does the property of others.

Only when something of value is freely given...
does the true aspect of a gift or sharing take place.

It then only becomes natural to thank others...
for he will have realized the sacrifice made.

Alex has always been generous in sharing...
and he always asks before touching anything that belongs...
to someone else.

We are able to leave out chocolates or other treats...
he never gets one without permission.

A good way to teach the value of sharing is to give different...
but equally interesting toys to all children involved.

By teaching them that all would be able to enjoy...
all of the available toys by sharing...
rather than being stuck with only one each...
they will soon grasp the practical aspects of sharing.

This also teaches good behavior to children.
Should they behave badly toward others...
the others would then not want to play with them...
and so, the child would be left without...
the ability to share...and so...
all of its benefits.

It is when children have it in their minds that...
no matter what...
the others MUST share...
there is no need to act appropriately.
They then become tyrants...
essentially taking others things...
at will...
through societal decree.
Not because they wish to use...
the newly acquired property...
but to show that...
they could deprive others at will...
through manipulation.

Teach your children the sanctity of personal property...
along with the value of cooperative play through sharing...
then...and only then...
will the true concept of sharing...
have any meaning or value.


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