Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Passion - A Deep Seated Strength


Nights In White Satin - Sung by
Mario Frangoulis / Justin Hayward
Originally composed by Justin Hayward
Originally played by The Moody Blues


Just as the amount of passion displayed in this video...
a spectrum child often feels the same
with things important to him.

Many children on the Autistic Spectrum...
particularly those children with Asperger's
feel very deeply...
very passionately...
although they often simply don't show it.

As many of their senses are heightened...
often to their detriment...
as normal sounds or events
are sometimes magnified to obscene levels in their minds.

However...
often times they also feel very passionately
about things that are normally overlooked.

Music and colors are often felt to the soul.
It transports them to a place of peace...
a place so fascinating...
so mesmerizing...
that they lose all sense of time.

So often, a spectrum child
will listen to the same song...
for hours at a time...
100 times in a row is not unusual.

Repetitive motions or tasks are soothing.

They simply love to concentrate on one thing fully...
allowing it to be all encompassing.
They become absorbed in the task at hand with a passion.

To be transfixed by colors...
especially translucent and luminescent ones...
is a joyous journey into his world of perfection.

His world can be a place of great comfort.
A place where just the right kind and amount of stimuli is applied by his mind.

The great orchestras of the mind...
soothing his soul...
as the movie of his mind
plays out his favorite made up scenes...
the feeling of the crispness of the air...
the crystal clarity of his senses heightened...
all without over-stimulation.


While this is often done by most people...
a spectrum child feels it to such a great degree
that he often shuts out external stimuli.


Issues they feel strongly about are
often so upsetting to them if 
others don't see it the same way they do.


They often are looking deeply into the issue.
They are seeing the principle behind the issue.
They see how it would affect all others should the principle be applied widely.


Frequently, in their minds, they don't understand the need for moderation.
They wish to devote themselves, heart and soul, to the task at hand.


They have an on and off switch...
with no dimmer.


 It applies to their passion...
and to their intellect.


They wish to go all out or not at all.


 An action is either correct...
 which should be applied to all...
in all cases...
with no exceptions....
or it is incorrect...
and should never be used.


While many accept a learned lesson for what it is...
many on the spectrum...
are looking for the supreme underlying principle
so they may apply it universally.


While I agree that this is the correct way of thinking...
many times throughout life...
lessons are given piecemeal.
They are not tied to principles..
no real founding concepts.


This is what is so profoundly upsetting...
to many on the spectrum.


We are careful to give full explanations...
tying it in to the overall picture...
so he may understand the underlying concepts.


With this fundamental understanding...
his mind takes off...
makes great leaps as he applies it to
many other connected circumstances.


When a small perceived injustice occurs...
many react with a simple shrug...
thinking it is nothing.


With spectrum children...
it is not so much the issue at hand...
that which many just look at...
it is the issue of good against evil.
That any slight at all...
is flat out wrong.


It becomes an issue of Justice and Correctness.


An analogy can be applied to the song above...
while many listen to music...
and like it...


Many on the spectrum...
are in front of a great audience...
great orchestras are playing in their minds...
they feel the beats in their souls...
it places them on a roller coaster...
with the accompanying...
associated vertigo...
the colors of the lights...
they feel...and taste...
they sing with the passion of the singer...
in the above video...
(in their minds)
completely oblivious to the audience...
not concerned with their performance...
they are transported...
to their special place.
The more they play the song...
the longer the ride...
and so...
they can play the same song...
over and over.

They aren't merely listening to the music...
but are fully experiencing it in the movie of the mind.


They often feel other seemingly trivial events or stimuli in the same manner.

 They are often living life on the
physical stimuli threshold and emotional edge...
and so they can be pushed over with over stimulation...
far more easily than others.


It is because of this that they can feel so deeply...
so passionately....
and so...can be so disturbed
by disruptions to the order of things...
or events.


However...this can be their great strength.


This passion is an elixir of life.

The passion is not the attribute to be extinguished...
just the incorrect manifestations of it.


I often tell Alex after a "passionate" outburst over
 a seemingly minor issue or stimuli...
that a man's mind is his own...
(he has a right to feel that way)
however...
it is a man's actions or in-actions that the world is concerned with.


I don't try to tell him not to feel passionately...
I merely let him know that his response to it was inappropriate.


He had been taught a very good outlet during ABA therapy.
He would often type a whole multi-paged story
about the object of his passion.


My wife once had killed a fly in the house
(many years ago).
Alex got upset.
He ended up writing a whole story on it...
only with a happy ending...
thereby giving his sense of justice some peace.

It worked....
my wife hasn't killed a fly in the house in front of him since :)

Too many people don't feel passionately enough about things.


Passion is good...
it is a fuel for change.

By guiding that passion towards academics using Positive Reinforcement...
he will be rewarded internally for something that
shall reward him later in life materially.


To try to dampen his enthusiasm
is to try to invalidate his passion
for something he feels deeply about.


I think it is better to guide him toward a positive outlet.


To pursue something with the passion
and intensity of the obsessed can become a great strength...
if appropriately directed.


Telling someone to calm down...
does nothing.


Showing him coping strategies...
(physical - open hands and concentration on breathing)
or a redirection to a positive outlet...
does.


Look for a way he can creatively correct the perceived wrong constructively.


Greatly praise him when he takes the correct steps toward problem resolution.


He can then keep the fires of his passions lit...
and use it to propel him to great heights.

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