Saturday, December 18, 2010

Home Schooling - Concept Of Sharing


Dawn Scat -Yuki Saori  

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My mother used to love to listen to Japanese Folk and Popular music.
This is one of my favorite songs from this artist.
She was one of the most popular artists in Japan in the late 1960s.
In my earlier years...
I was raised on this type of music (as well as Classical and Easy Listening).

Although this song really has nothing to do...
with the topic of sharing.
I thought it would be nice to listen to...
while I shared my thoughts with you.

The concept of sharing has become twisted...
to mean that it is a requirement.

To have to share is to never have had...
anything to share in the first place...as it was never yours.
The very nature of HAVING (vs. wanting) to share...
is socialistic in nature.

It takes all the goodness out of the act of sharing...
as it becomes an expectation...
and worse...
it takes away the sanctity of personal property.

Children grow up to not respect the property of others...
as they see all property as theirs.

There is no concept of sharing...
as a way of personal bonding with others...
as a way of effectively increasing...
the available resources to all...
and as a way to be thought of as...
being a valued member of the group.

I have seen, throughout life, the disrespectful acts of some...
when it comes to the personal property of others.
They consistently acted as those children, I had seen...
as a child, whom were raised with the notion...
that everyone must share.
They thought nothing of just taking...
whatever they wished from others...
whenever they wished...
and all without a thank you...
and without reciprocation.


The sanctity of personal property was never instilled...
because of this misplaced value.

Without the notion of personal property...
being an extension of the self...
there is no concept...
of respect for others or their things.
When they feel that it is a societal given that others must share...
the thought of thanking and reciprocating the act...
does not come into mind since it was not...
an honorable act on the others part.

The person who thinks this way is taught to be selfish...
as they see this as a way to get ahead of others.
By hiding their resources...
they may take from others without using up theirs.
They look upon this as a way to be smart...
rather than see it as a dishonorable act.

Alex was raised to value the property of others...
by being able to see his property as sacred.
While we encouraged his cooperation in the sharing...
of his things with others...
he didn't HAVE to (and so others needn't share with him).
We did, however, teach him the value of cooperative play...
as a way to extend a friendly hand to others whom are without...
to use it as a way to build friendship and trust...
and on the practical aspect...
as a perfectly logical way to...
vastly increase the usable resources for all involved.

When a child thinks this way...
the true joy of sharing becomes possible.
His property then has value...
and so...does the property of others.

Only when something of value is freely given...
does the true aspect of a gift or sharing take place.

It then only becomes natural to thank others...
for he will have realized the sacrifice made.

Alex has always been generous in sharing...
and he always asks before touching anything that belongs...
to someone else.

We are able to leave out chocolates or other treats...
he never gets one without permission.

A good way to teach the value of sharing is to give different...
but equally interesting toys to all children involved.

By teaching them that all would be able to enjoy...
all of the available toys by sharing...
rather than being stuck with only one each...
they will soon grasp the practical aspects of sharing.

This also teaches good behavior to children.
Should they behave badly toward others...
the others would then not want to play with them...
and so, the child would be left without...
the ability to share...and so...
all of its benefits.

It is when children have it in their minds that...
no matter what...
the others MUST share...
there is no need to act appropriately.
They then become tyrants...
essentially taking others things...
at will...
through societal decree.
Not because they wish to use...
the newly acquired property...
but to show that...
they could deprive others at will...
through manipulation.

Teach your children the sanctity of personal property...
along with the value of cooperative play through sharing...
then...and only then...
will the true concept of sharing...
have any meaning or value.


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